– updated August, 2026
Dive into the dynamics of Sex, Karma, and Meditation. Discover that none of them makes a difference in uncovering non-duality.
From Duality Hack #1.11 in the free eBook Alexius’ Duality Hacks.
Sex is fun when you give it your best shot
Denying the physical pleasure of orgasm doesn’t make you spiritual, because what you deny, you enhance. By contrast, when you enjoy orgasms, you forget materiality and head towards spirituality.
and expressed physically in a material world. [Photo: Alexius]
Being physical is essential to appearing in a material world. Thus, our legs remain physical even when not engaged in walking, and a computer, when switched off, doesn’t become immaterial. Similarly, the body does not become spiritual if we hold back ejaculation through tantric sex, for instance. On the contrary, denying the body sexual pleasure reinforces our belief in being physical.
Trying to disassociate yourself from something enhances the belief in separation, which is the cause of suffering.
That said, there’s no more than the formlessness of Oneness, so believing you’re physical is as unreal as believing in Santa Claus. However, you can only read this if you believe you’re someone in a material world. So, while this fiction seems real, you may as well enjoy the pleasures of sex by giving it your best shot.
Oneness is endless, so you can’t experience a world limited by time and space without it. Hence, you’d better experience it to confirm it as a positive confirmation of that which is One.
Orgasm with glimpses of Enlightenment
If you pursue sex tangibly, the physical pleasure of orgasm is incredible, especially when connected with the empty breath. Then the whole body quivers with joy, and glimpses of Enlightenment appear. Read about the empty breath in Duality Hack #9 and about glimpses of Enlightenment in Duality Hack #11.1 and #11.2.
Life has no cause and effect. Karma is bogus
Life is formless, thus endless, so it cannot be caused by anything or have any effect. Consequently, karma is make-believe.
When we hammer a nail into the wall, we immediately see the physical effect, which is caused by our present action, not by the past. The same applies if we hit our finger while hammering. Nothing is caused by the past or set in motion for the future, except going to the doctor if the finger is wounded.
If you want causal connections to imply that what and where you believe in being has a special meaning, you must invent it.
However, suffering bodily pain from a simple accident doesn’t make us appear remarkable but rather somewhat awkward. So many people try to assign a specific cause and effect to such an incident by linking the pain to something from their past. This gives their accident deeper meaning and a sense of connectedness in their life story. Yet, life is not reasoned. It remains formless and resists any attempt to impose structure.
Life is oneness, which is formless, thus endless. Hence, it can neither have been caused by something nor cause anything. Therefore, everything created is lifeless.
Actually, as life is formless, there’s no life in a world confined by time and space. One way to recognise this is to examine what causes such a world. Some imagine a god created it. Others imagine that an explosion of nothing, in a Big Bang, created a universe of something. But only what is unreal needs imagining. Hence, since the world’s cause is fictitious and there’s no effect without a cause, the world is make-believe.
When we see our life as the result of past actions, we invent a cause-and-effect relationship. This mental construct, which we mistakenly perceive as a physical force called karma, keeps us tied to the past and trapped. [Photo: Alexius]
Meditation tricks you into thinking you can change
Since meditation reinforces the idea of something better, it upholds the belief in more than one, thus denying that which is One.
Often, those who meditate would be better off taking medication such as SSRIs (see Wikipedia) or beta-blockers (see Wikipedia). Then they would have more time to participate in the world around them with open eyes, acknowledge their belief in more than One, and thus hack it.
Hacking this belief doesn’t lead to divine insight, more peace, or greater understanding, because these are founded on belief in more than One. Instead, it reveals that you’re self less. Therefore, since there’s no ‘I’ having a spouse, a house, or anything else, nothing establishes you as somebody in a world with more than One.
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Much focus is needed to appear as somebody, whereas being nobody requires no concentration.
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Meditation is not needed to stop thoughts when nobody has them.
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Meditating to push away unpleasant feelings reinforces the belief that we are someone definitive. Thankfully, when we see problematic feelings for what they are, fleeting and transient, we’re released from the restrictions of being someone specific.
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When we look for a parking space, our thoughts won’t manifest one because thoughts have no power. However, they seem powerful when we use certain thoughts to convince ourselves that we’re someone who can’t find a parking space, which makes us a victim of those thoughts.
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Eastern meditation seeks to empty the mind of thoughts, whereas Western meditation, rooted in Christianity, wants to fill it with thoughts of God. However, the mind is not a fact but a construct of our perception. Thus, both emptying and filling it are equally illusory.
Thoughts seem problematic when you want to use them to construct a specific image of yourself. But when you don’t care about appearance, they’re stimulating. [Photo: Alexius]
You always have peace
Meditation doesn’t lead to lasting peace or transformation, and the teacher doesn’t possess anything you lack. To be at peace, do not obscure Oneness through meditation or anything else that requires more than one.
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Since that which is you does not differ from the formlessness of Oneness, being centred, balanced, or anything else that requires a shape is an illusion.
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The absence of something is the bliss of nothing. But you don’t get it if you meditate to achieve something.
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If you meditate to find peace within, you perceive inside and outside as separate, and any division prevents peace.
When you meditate, you seek something, such as peace. Yet since Oneness is formless and thus endless, acquiring something specific is make-believe. [Photo: Alexius]
The belief in more than one
Because Oneness is formless, you can’t focus on it. Therefore, contrary to what you may have learned, concentration does not help undo the belief in separation.
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Because meditation involves more than one, practising it to overcome separation is futile. Thankfully, because Oneness is formless, there’s no separation to overcome.
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Who but those who perceive themselves as dirty need to meditate daily to become pure?
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The belief in an illusion is undone when you look closely at it. That’s why the belief in more than one is not undone with eyes closed, but with eyes open.
In ancient times, many who came to the Ashrams in India exhibited aggressive behaviour. Thus, meditation was developed to suppress aggression. Today, the same meditation practices promote inner peace by suppressing negative traits. In this way, meditation reinforces the belief in separation rather than in Oneness. [Photo: Alexius]
Not the brain, but your wish to be special causes discomfort
If you try to resolve stress through meditation, you’ll become confused because you don’t know who you are. Only your maker knows. Since that is the brain, address stress by following the brain’s stream of thoughts rather than distancing yourself from them through meditation.
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We’re bound to follow the brain, which creates and sustains us as physical beings in a world defined by time and space. See Duality Hack #6. So, to appear spiritual, we try to change the thought structure that makes us perceive ourselves as material into one that makes us appear immaterial.
However, this manipulation of thoughts doesn’t make us feel spiritual. Instead, it leaves us confused. Therefore, we may turn to meditation to cultivate spirituality. Yet the more we meditate to escape material feelings, the more we inadvertently strengthen them.
On the other hand, when we don’t try to be something other than a material being conceived by the brain, we’re not something special. Thus, in the bliss of nothing, we’re at the doorstep of spirituality.
Although the wish to change is typically rooted in self-hatred, the solution is not to love yourself but to be self less. Then there’s no self to hate. [Photo: Alexius]
The world in which we appear is not singular but dual
In a world of duality, the brain constantly creates an inner dialogue of opposites, such as right and wrong, to make its dualistic world seem real.
But if we adopt a dualistic approach to our experiences, the brain doesn’t need to establish dualism through an ongoing inner dialogue of opposing elements. Thus, no thoughts disturb us as the duality flow moves toward non-duality. Refer to Duality Hack #8 for how a dualistic approach to our experiences leads to the duality flow.
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