When we point one finger at someone, our three ME fingers point back to reveal the suppressed desires or insecurities we want to hide by projecting them on someone else. By following the ME fingers, we free ourselves from guilt and the need for a fall guy.
From Duality Hack #1.10 in Alexius’ Duality Hacks
When you point the YOU finger at others, blaming them for your state of mind, the three ME fingers point to yourself. Following them, you realise what you see in them is something you hide in yourself.
For example, you point the YOU finger at your boss and silently, or loudly, state he is a ruthless dictator. Simultaneously, the three ME fingers point to you to expose what you want to hide by accusing your boss of dictatorship. It could be that you want to disguise your urge to rule. But often, an authority figure triggers a feeling of worthlessness. So, you avoid facing it by accusing the boss of putting you down.
You always look for others’ opinions to maintain your specific appearance. Yet, you do not know what they think. It is something you imagine. Therefore, you are up against nobody but yourself.
Perhaps feeling inferior started in childhood when you had to fulfil your parents’ expectations to get their love. Since pleasing others became a pattern, you adjusted to the boss’s demands, hoping to get his acceptance. However, you hide that you have manipulated the boss to like you, thus suppressing feeling inferior by claiming the boss exploits you.
If you always control yourself to do the right thing, you may feel dominated by society. But you are the suppressor. [Photo: Alexius]
Following the three ME fingers to yourself and face feeling unloved
The above does not mean you must address unresolved issues from the past to free yourself from the patterns that have been initiated. They repeat themselves constantly in the present. In this case, you hide feeling unloved by blaming authorities for dominating you until you follow the three ME fingers to yourself and face feeling wrong. Doing that is not about analysing, embracing or speaking out loud. Those mental attitudes distance you further from feeling what you hide. Instead, be what you feel when you perceive others to dominate you.
If you want to see what prevents you from enjoying yourself, blame somebody else for your misery. That reflects what you see as wrong in yourself, thus keeping you from feeling loved.
When you are only that, nothing can define what you feel. Therefore, since nobody feels inferior, perceiving others as superior is unnecessary. In short, when you follow the three ME fingers, it takes less than a minute to set yourself free from past conditioning and, therefore, free others from your judgment.
We eliminate everything we do not like to see ourselves by projecting it onto somebody else. Then others, looking as the wrong ones, become the contrasting background for us as the right ones. So, since our perception of others shapes our explicit personality, we can see in them what we need to include to become flexible, thus not imprisoned by our invented perfection.[Photo: Alexius]
Condemn Alexius to free yourself
You can start freeing yourself immediately by pointing the YOU finger at Alexius, condemning him for typos and whatnot. Then, follow the three ME fingers to see what he triggers in you. Facing that is like using an eraser. The old feelings are no longer stored in your memory as something specific. Hence, you do not know what you used to hide.
Yet, you probably notice that you are not so tense anymore. So, next time you encounter a scenario that upset you in the past, you laugh and wonder why you once saw it as distressing.
When you do not continually project onto others what you are ashamed of, you are AloneTogether unconditionally.
The point of reference in the above is feeling upset, but everything said about it also applies to feeling good. For example, by pointing the YOU finger at someone and saying, »You make me happy,« you can see what it triggers in yourself. Facing it sets you free from your daydream. Then, you can be together without expecting the other to make you happy.
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