To uphold our belief in individuality, we perceive ourselves as separated by time and space, thereby concealing the intimacy of oneness. Thankfully, by being AloneTogether, we reestablish the closeness of oneness.

From Duality Hack #12.1 in Alexius’ Duality Hacks.

When we feel small or insecure, we, by reflex, blame others. Women may criticize the tone of someone they see as superior to terminate that person’s perceived superiority. Some men find minor faults in the statements of those they see as oppressors to demonstrate that those persons are mentally inferior. If they are unable to succeed in denigrating the perceived tyrant, they may choose a physical fight to put the other down.

However, the fight, mental or physical, is not personal but a fundamental way to confirm the dimension difference: one is small, and the other is big. It establishes you as different, so the belief in separation is maintained. Since that belief does not seem to be your choice but imposed on you by somebody bigger, you feel trapped and unable to undo it.

In contrast, you feel intimately related to everything when not perceiving the experienced difference to make a difference (see Duality Hack #4.3). Hence, you are free to choose the intimacy of oneness.

Escaping intimacy to appear as an individual

It often feels more manageable and faster to do something in the electronic media’s virtual world than in the physical one. A breakup is much quicker to do on facebook. You avoid hours of unpleasant encounters in the physical world, such as tearful conversations and awkward silences, when you are face-booking a breakup instead of facing it.

Similarly, we believe that we can evade the intimacy of oneness by assuming a defined role in a world governed by time and space. But oneness is formless and, therefore, 100% intimate, making it impossible to keep a distance. Besides, it is endless, thus impossible to escape. However, as we seem to be in a world defined by time and space, we go on in that context.

It takes more than one to escape, but there is no more than One

The speed of oneness, as explained in Duality Hack #9.9, is so fast that there is no space between anything. Ergo, the closeness is so intense that you are on all the time. It is complete presence and intimacy.

However, we often choose to avoid the intimacy and wakefulness of oneness by retreating into a world governed by time and space. In this world, we can use these concepts to maintain a calculated distance from some, for example, choosing a relationship with someone far away and keeping others close, but not too close, to risk losing our perceived individuality, for instance, by saying we do not have more time. This strategy is even more effective in the alluring realm of cyberspace, where we can hide our personality in the physical world behind a carefully constructed virtual persona designed to project the person we want others to see.

Alternatively, we retreat into the realm of dreams, where we meet others who we perceive as separate from us. But we meet nobody but ourselves because we remain in our bed AloneTogether with those we experience meeting. Likewise, when you are awake, because oneness is formless, thus endless, so there is no more than One.

In short, we are always AloneTogether with whomever we experience meeting. By acknowledging that, we undo dimension differences, bringing us inclusively close to all our experiences and, thus, confirming the intimacy of oneness.