By exploring duality extensively, we see that to undo it, we must live by it.
From Duality Hack #8.4 in Alexius’ Duality Hacks.
When Alexius was six years old, lying on the floor while his father kicked him, he for the first time sensed that everything is a charade to make us look like somebody. Hence, instinctively mimicked fear by shivering all over to look as somebody frightened by his father. Alexius’ fearful performance seemed to satisfy his father, so he stopped beating him. So, Alexius concluded that making the body tremble to appear scared was the way to stop being maltreated and, therefore, be in control, although beaten.
Therefore, since provoking a muscle spasm in the body prevented him from feeling helpless, it became his way of dealing with danger until he recognised the duality flow. However, this hack is not about Alexius’ way to the duality flow but yours
Contrasts are the building stones of duality, so when you interpret something as beautiful, you are bound to see something deemed ugly. So, if you do not try to correct or remove the ugliness to hold onto a distinct view of beauty, you get the togetherness of twofoldness
If you suppress your negativity to appear solely positive, you do not get the togetherness of the duality flow but the loneliness of singularity. Besides, being only positive does not feel right because positivity cannot be defined without negativity. Therefore, if you want to be genuinely positive, do not avoid your negativity by explaining it away, but accept it unedited. [Photo: Alexius]
The loneliness of singularity versus the togetherness of twofoldness
Since every experience is twofold in a world of duality, a distinct impression, such as love, is fake. Therefore, you feel disconnected if you hold onto it. Fortunately, it is easily corrected. First, you perceive your singular feeling of love as ‘it is what it is.’ Then, in a state of expectation calling for nothing specific, your distinct love feeling gently turns inside out and unveils its counterpart, hatred. Shortly after, hate gently turns inside out to reveal it contains love. In this way, love and hate continue to interact.
Like breathing in and out is not experienced simultaneously, nor is love and hate or any other opposing elements. Yet, when you experience love, you know it is part of hate and vice versa – like breathing in leads to breathing out and vice versa.
Therefore, since hate defines the love, which characterises hate, there is no true love without hatred. Consequently, if you feel one of them, you have both. But you have none if you suppress hate to hold onto a specific version of love. Ergo, you feel disconnected until you remember that connectedness comes from twofoldness and, therefore, the collaboration of love and hate.
Alexius’ Duality Hacks say that in a world of duality, every experience comes in pairs. However, it that does not mean you see two persons when there is only one in front of you, but that your response is twofold. Unfortunately, most suppress hate, for example, to not have a twofold reaction but a singular one of love. But since that response is out of sync with duality, they feel incomplete. [Photo: Alexius]
The perception ‘it is what it is’ is not used on events but your reaction to them
Perceiving your reaction to an experience as ‘it is what it is’ aligns you with duality, so you feel connected immediately. That is if you do not mistake your response to an event for the event itself. Then, you establish the meaning assigned to your response as the event.
For example, if you decide that not being seen makes you feel sad, you perceive sadness as ‘it is what it is.’ This reveals that your one-sided response is twofold. Hence, sadness does not settle into definite grief but gently opens up and reveals happiness within it. In a literal sense, happiness interacts with sadness as breathing in follows breathing out.
Another example: Suppose you mistake your nostalgic reaction to a photograph of your hometown for the image. In that case, looking at the photo and stating that ‘it is what it is,’ you establish the specific look of the image as nostalgic. Hence, the perception that ‘it is what it is’ is used to suppress your nostalgic reaction to the photo of your hometown so you can appear detached from your past. Therefore, since you use the perception, ‘it is what it is’ as a disguise for ‘I know what it is,’ you do not get the togetherness of twofoldness but the loneliness of singularity.
In summary, when you replace the meaning of an event with the meaning you have assigned to your reaction to that event and state it as a fact, your perception is ‘I know what it is,’ regardless of saying, ‘it is what it is.’ Hence, you do not feel vitalised by the interaction of opposites but fatigue from suppressing what you feel about something to appear detached.
So, since it is not what happens that affects you but the way you interpret it, you always perceive your reaction to something as ‘it is what it is.’
For example, if you decide that not being seen makes you feel sad, you perceive sadness as ‘it is what it is.’ This reveals that your one-sided response is twofold. Hence, sadness does not settle into definite grief but gently opens up and reveals happiness inside it. Literally speaking, happiness interacts with sadness as breathing in follows breathing out.
However, you may be so used to making up mental explanations, hiding your initial response to something, that you are unaware of your reaction. But when you become aware of it, ever so slightly, and perceive the definitive meaning you assigned to your response as ‘it is what it is,’ it opens up. Then, its counterpart unfolds from within, as already described.
Every reaction is twofold in a world of duality
Seeing your response as twofold, it does not appear exclusively right or wrong. Hence, it neither generates pleasure nor worry. Instead, it brings about fulfilment, remaining no matter what happens because it does not depend on something specific.
That does not mean you cannot respond with sadness if somebody rejects you. But since your sadness is perceived as ‘it is what it is,’ it is revealed to interact with happiness, so you are not stuck in a specific feeling.
You do not have to apply Alexius’
Duality Hacks perfectly. A willingness to undo the belief in duality is enough. So, if you are not in touch with your spontaneous reaction to something, you perceive your bewilderment as ‘it is what it is.’ After all, that is what it is. [Photo: Alexius]
However, you may be so used to making up mental explanations, hiding your initial response to something, that you are unaware of your reaction. But when you become aware of it, ever so slightly, and perceive the definitive meaning you assigned to your response as ‘it is what it is,’ it opens up. Then, its counterpart unfolds from within, as already described.
Seeing your response as twofold, it does not appear exclusively right or wrong. Hence, it neither generates pleasure nor worry. Instead, it brings about fulfilment, remaining no matter what happens because it does not depend on something specific.
That does not mean you cannot respond with sadness if somebody rejects you. But since your sadness is perceived as ‘it is what it is,’ it is revealed to interact with happiness, so you are not stuck in a specific feeling.
The perception ‘it is what it is’ reveals the duality flow
To repeat, when your single-minded reaction to something is perceived as ‘it is what it is,’ it is not limited to a rage response, for example. Instead, you go back and forth between that and its contrast, peace, so the opposing elements can define each other, and you experience them to the fullest.
Being amused by this potency, you remain in the duality flow. Hence, another intensely experienced polarity soon pops up. It continues like that until you feel so euphoric that there is no need for more. Ergo, the belief in duality fades out. It may take a split-second or many years, but since time is an illusion and you feel fulfilled by the duality flow, it does not matter.
As you adjust to the rules of a computer game, you adapt to the game of duality, made by duality pairs. Ergo, you do not suppress one part of a duality pair to only be aware of the other. For example, you do not suppress hate only to feel only love. Instead, you go with their interplay to get the full relationship experience. [Photo: Alexius]
How do you suppress feelings?
- Talking about what others do or say instead of how that makes you feel.
- Manipulating others to remove the attention from how you feel.
- Holding onto someone to hide your self-hatred inside.
- Talking about metaphysical things instead of acknowledging what you feel.
- Being upset about something on behalf of others.
- Meditating, chanting, praying or doing similar things to fend off the present moment.
- Explain what you feel.
- Eating or drinking to suppress one’s emotions.
- Trying to prove a factual point to hide what you feel.
- Adjusting to specific concepts like living in the now.
- Blaming others and justifying your feelings by them.
- Planning your feelings away.
- Constantly looking for new things to buy or change.
- Trying to always be in a good mood.
- Working a lot and, for instance, cleaning your home when you are upset.
- Reading or playing computer games regularly.
- Having revenge sex.
- Staging yourself on Facebook to get many likes and followers.
- Publish photos of your happy and shiny life on Instagram.
- Quoting others to prove you are right.
- Feeling good by making the world better.
- Sitting with crossed legs, locking the knees by bending them backwards when standing, raising one or both shoulders or pushing them forward.
- Holding back the breath.
- Assuming to know what is right.
- Concluding this and that.
How do you not suppress feelings?
- In the duality flow, feelings become very defined, but only in relation to their counterpart. Therefore, since they are not definitive but relative, you have no specific feeling to suppress.
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