Sadness is a close friend of gladness

Updated July 18, 2023

When feeling sad is perceived as ‘it is what it is,’ it is revealed to be paired with gladness. This revelation sets off the experience of other duality pairs, such as weakness and wellness, disappointment and contentment and tears and laughter. Going with the interaction of the opposing elements in a duality pair, you enter the duality flow. Thus you eventually feel so blown out that there is no more to ask for. Consequently, the need for duality fades out. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.

Suppose you do not acknowledge the negativity in your psychological sphere but project it onto others. In that case, you also disconnect yourself from your positivity because your negativity is not there to define it. The same applies if you hide your negative thoughts and feelings from your awareness by projecting them onto vulnerable parts of your body. In short, when you do not ratify your negativity, the experience of being positive is fake. Read here about how you quickly bring back what you have projected onto others.

To formulate genuine positivity in yourself, you must restore the negativity you have cut off from your awareness. So when you see something bad in the world, you acknowledge it is your own negativity you experience because what you receive is what you have – like the sun’s colouration of your skin is determined by your pigmentation. However, that does not mean a beggar is in your psychological sphere if you see someone begging on the street. But you have negativity in your psychological zone if you judge what you see negatively. Read more about the psychological zone here.

In that case, like a quick look from above is sufficient to ratify if there is water in a well, a glance in your psychological sphere is enough to feel your negative response to the beggar, so your reaction can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ That reveals there is positivity inside negativity. Like two sides of a coin, they define each other. Hence you cannot feel positivity without negativity, and vice versa. Read more about that here. Since the experience of this duality pair, or any other, makes you feel complete, the belief in duality can be undone completely.

In Duality Hack #6 Happiness is to be in touch with the brain, you can read about how the perception ‘it is what it isreveals that your singular opinion of something is twofold, wherefore, you get the togetherness of duality instead of the loneliness of singularity.

The acknowledgement of hell does not make it go away but exposes heaven inside it, and that they interact to define each other.

Any experience perceived as positive is bound to be complemented by another deemed negative because everything comes in pairs of opposing elements in a world of duality. A foreground, for example, is paired with a background so they can define each other, negative thinking confirms positivity, hate verifies love, sadness substantiates gladness, and so on. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.

FALLING INTO HELL, YOU SEE HEAVEN
That was the short version. The longer one is that when you begin recognising your negativity, its interplay with positivity in the psychological zone may not get your attention immediately. Instead, seeing your negativity probably feels like going to hell because you are overwhelmed by forgotten and unpleasant emotions coming out of the dark.

Perhaps this starts slowly with a familiar sense of depression that you a long time ago hid from your awareness by imagining dumping it behind the pain in a vulnerable part of the body. See more about that in Duality Hack #7 Physical & non-physical issues do not mix.

But since depression often is repressed anger, sooner or later, it flares out in brutal hellfire. Maybe it is like acid-like splashes coming out of the body part where you initially imagined hiding your anger. Or perhaps it feels like a ruthless and evil force tortures you.

When something in your psychological zone, interpreted specifically as evil, is perceived as ‘it is what it is, you feel evil contains goodness. Likewise, there is success in failure and an angel in a monster. However, none of these opposing elements are important in themselves. It is their constant interaction that makes you feel at home, whereas standing explicitly by one of them you feel lost.

In a world of duality, there is nothing better than the duality flow. But most want to be in control and establish that via single-minded postulates, so they avoid twofoldness. Although that gives them a sense of superiority, the overall feeling is despair because you never seem to get it right. That is, until you stop upholding your singular opinions as facts but go with the duality flow. By doing that, any point of view is exposed twofold. Thus you feel nonsectarian, which is necessary to feel completed by the constant interaction of opposites in a world of duality. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.

Not avoiding but acknowledging that exposing your negativity feels like hell, your single-minded response can be perceived as ‘it is what it is. That reveals hell is twofold. It is side by side with heaven, and they constantly interact, not balanced and harmoniously but adventurously. You rapidly go up and down between heaven’s pleasure and hell’s displeasure. It is like ocean waves: sometimes they are big and fast, and at other times, they are small and slow or hardly there. Amazed by the polarity, you realise there is no heaven without hell in a world of duality – just like there is no breathing in without breathing out. You cannot have one without the other.

Since duality is about twofoldness, and you believe in a world of duality, joining the interaction of hell and heaven makes you feel complete. And since this automatically leads to the experience of other duality pairs, the feeling of completeness eventually becomes so intense that you forget to define yourself. Consequently, you do not appear to hide non-duality. However, the process leading up to this may seem more comfortable if the problematic area in the body, where you once attempted to conceal singular feelings separated from their complementary parts, is fixed.

If you acknowledge every emotion that pops up in your psychological zone, there are no psychological unpleasantness to project onto the body. Consequently, there is nothing mysterious to fear in the body.

In a world of duality, everything comes in pairs. So if you do not try to split them to hold onto a singular perspective of love, for example, you are aligned with duality. That does not mean things work better but do not bother you because you feel complete in the duality flow. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.

LIVING PER DUALITY IS EFFORTLESS
When dualism is accepted, you enjoy the constant interaction of love and hate. Therefore, since you do not hide hatred in the body, you have no need to imagine special tensions to block the communication between the body and the brain. Hence the brain, which has the blueprint of the body’s composition, can restore the body through its anatomy with the help of nature. In other words, the brain, not you, knows how to handle the body. Still, you may help call a healthcare professional if needed. But the brain does not need your help connecting with nature. It is already hooked up to the cosmos. That is why you do not fall off the planet and feel connected with everything when you do not try to integrate the body with your ideas of perfection.

That does not mean you must abandon your ideas but that you perceive your opinions as ‘it is what it is.’ That reveals your reasoning is not singular but dual. Therefore, since you are in a world of duality, you feel aligned with it. Being that, you do not wonder about the future because you are in the duality flow. Read more about that here. Hence your next step comes effortlessly – like breathing out follows breathing in. However, the duality flow is not physical, thus not something in the body but in the psychological sphere.

Here you can read more about the obstruction of the natural relationship between the brain and the body and how to restore it.

You get a preview of non-duality by taking a break from duality. It feels like walking on clouds, even though you may be walking on a busy street. However, it calls for more than one to feel something, so the preview of non-duality is a simulation. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.

TAKING A BREAK FROM DUALITY
If your descent into hell* seems so distressing that you overlook its counterpart, heaven, a break from duality may be the way to go. That does not happen by pacifying yourself via meditation, praying or soothing music but by not withholding your anxiety, so its full speed ignites a take-off into the empty breath (read more about that in Duality hack #9 In the bliss of nothing with the empty breath).

The empty breath immediately brings you into a state of not-knowing. Here experiences go on as usual. But since nobody responds to them, there are no reactions to establish them as different. Therefore, although you are in the brain’s game, you are not of it, so after 20 minutes, 45 at most, the brain feels so abandoned that it falls into a coma. Hence, you should not remain in a state of not knowing for too long unless you want to permanently undo the belief in duality. Read more about that here.

Fortunately, not much time is needed in a state of not-knowing to have the slate wiped clean, so you return to a world of duality as the basic self. Since it perceives its response to an experience as ‘it is what it is,’ the reaction is not sensed as singular but twofold. Hence, as you probably already know, descending to hell is complemented by ascending to heaven.

That does not mean non-duality is a fusion of heaven and hell or the union of all contrasts. On the contrary, non-duality is neither something nor nothing because it takes more than one to be anything. Yet it is everything because non-duality is formless, thus endless.

However, the topic of Duality Hack #8 The duality flow goes to non-duality is not non-duality but living per duality. You need to be fully anchored in the belief that you are someone in a world of duality to undo that belief – just like you need to play a game to finish it. Hence we continue in the context of duality in the following article, ‘What if…?’ versus ‘it is what it is’.


*) You may find the book Descent to the Goddess interesting regarding falling into hell, even though it is not in line with Alexius’ Enlightened Non-Teachings and is supposedly only for women.


NOTE: This article is part of Duality Hack #8 The duality flow goes to non-duality.

What time is it!?

Updated May 16, 2023

What you think you see now is composed of many images, which, as rays of light, have travelled each their distance to you, where the brain compiles them into one image, edited as it sees fit. For example, in this picture, the sun is about eight minutes older than the palm trees in the front of the image because it takes the light eight minutes to travel from the sun to the Earth. And everything between the palm trees and the sun is between a split second and eight minutes old. But the completed image is a bit older because it takes time for the brain to compile all the images into one. In other words, the brain deceives you into believing your present experience happens now, while it happened in the past and maybe not at all, because to save time, the brain may have left out details or replaced everything with a similar image from its store. Read about the brain’s ways in Duality Hack #6 Happiness is to be in touch with the brainPhoto © Alexius Jorgensen.

NOW IS CONSTRUCTED BY PAST
If you look at the sun now, you see how it looked eight minutes ago because that is the time it takes for the light to travel from the sun to you. Consequently, what you think you see now is the past.

Since the distance to the stars is enormous, it takes so long for their images to reach you that they may not be there anymore when you experience seeing them now. However, something close to you also has travelled in time. That is why everything you believe in seeing now is a collection of past images selectively put together by the brain as one image. Sometimes it uses an old image that looks similar to speed up things. In short, now is an illusion.

THERE IS NO PAST
Imagine the sun has consciousness or special equipment to see what happens on Earth. In that case, it will know how you looked eight minutes ago. Then imagine observing you from a star so distant from the Earth that what it sees now is your birth.

Science has recently found a point so far away in the universe, that they can almost watch its beginning as if it happens now.

And go on to imagine points further away in the universe from where the birth of your mother and grandmother is experienced by the universe now – also the birth of itself.

In the eyes of the universe, there is no past or future but one perpetual present. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

THERE IS NO FUTURE
When your mother’s birth is seen from a specific point in the universe, it appears as if there is a future for her, but from another location in the universe, her death is seen at the same moment as her birth.

THERE IS NO TIME
From the limited perspective of the Earth, there seems to be a past, future, and now in between. But, seen from the universe’s perspective, there is no time. Everything co-occurs.

There is no before and after – and consequently no reincarnation. It is an idea made up to make the experience of being someone in a world of linear time seems as if it is going to last.

A TV can illustrate this. For example, it may have one channel showing a sci-fi movie, another one a film from the past and yet another one a documentary. But due to limitations, you only watch one at a time, although they all play simultaneously.

Linear time is a simulated reality layered on top of one perpetual present.

In linear time, it seems like an explosion from a black hole expanded into a world defined by time and space. In reality, though, it contracted the exact moment it expanded. Thus nothing is left but memories of the expansion. However, when they are replayed in linear time, it appears as if there still is a world defined by time and space. Read more about that here. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

THERE IS NO UNIVERSE
According to science, all the elements coming out of the big bang quickly organised themselves into a super pattern that would have stagnated if perfected. However, due to a few gaps, it expanded into what became the universe.

But everything that expands is bound to contract. Actually, it has already happened because everything co-occurs. Hence the universe begins and ends at the same moment.

NOTHING TO HOPE FOR
The hope for a better future upholds the belief in a universe of linear time. Especially because hope always is accompanied by fear. First, for not getting what you hope for, and if you get it, you fear losing it. However, if you wish for nothing, there is not something to lose, thus nothing to fear, wherefore you are free.

Reality is that which is One and since it is formless, thus endless, a world defined by time and space is a hallucination.

THERE IS NO FREEDOM
But since reality is oneness, and it takes more than one to be free, there is no freedom. However, while you appear to be in a world where there seems to be more than one, the relief you get from hoping for nothing sets you free from belief in being there.

Instead, it is something you pretend. And where you pretend to be, you are not. So even though you appear to be in a world where there seems to be more than one, you are not there, nor anywhere else, as that requires more than one, and there is no more that which is One. That said, although everything happens simultaneously, this seems to take a while when you appear as someone in a world where there seems to be more than one.


NOTE: This article is part of Duality Hack #1 Every experience is make-believe.