Updated July 8, 2023
The basic self does not need to edit the experience of the world into something that complies with concepts of being together in harmony, balance or whatnot. On the contrary, since everything experienced is created by the brain, the basic self is together with everything, regardless of appearance. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
You constantly seek somebody to ratify your significance when you see yourself as special. But as closeness may reveal your need for others is egoistic, you substitute genuine feelings of togetherness with conceptualised ones. For example, you adjust to the table manners of a traditional dinner party to appear close without being intimate – or you get popcorn and a classic movie to rewatch with someone, thus looking close.
On the other hand, the basic self is not definitive but relative. Hence it automatically adjusts to the present as it is – also, if that seems frightening because fear is defined by calmness, which defines fear, so by experiencing them interacting, you feel the moment completely.
Practically speaking, you go with the interaction of these opposites by not seeing fear as a specific feeling. That is not done by avoiding it but by acknowledging it so you can perceive it as ‘it is what it is.’ That reveals fear is not alone but constantly interacts with its opposite, calmness to define each other. And since twofoldness is the nature of dualism, this establishes you as someone in a duality world so you can hack it. Fortunately, going with the interaction of opposites, called the duality flow, you have fun hacking duality.
That said, when you are not interested in being special, thus going on automatic gear as the basic self, you do not have to perceive specific feelings as ‘it is what it is.’ The brain automatically does that. Maybe it does not perceive them using those words. But you know specific feelings are exposed as twofold because you cannot help laughing, feeling the duality flow.
However, you do not laugh when out of the duality flow because being stuck with specific feelings makes you nervous. Maybe it is as if you feel shaky somewhere in your body because, to feel specifically positive, you suppress your negativity by projecting it onto a vulnerable part of the body. But you do not need to know what you have hidden or where to solve feeling confined. If you perceive your reaction to it as ‘it is what it is,’ you see your response is twofold. Since that makes you feel complete, you have nothing to be upset about.
Read more about the basic self in Duality Hack #5 The worry-free life of the basic self.
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Comparing the desire for something with the drawback of getting it is a typical interplay of opposites in a world of duality. Going with this interaction, you feel complete, thus indifferent to the outcome. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
You must judge something as inharmonious to know that you experience something else as harmonious. But since most people after that exclude the inharmonious, there is not something to define the harmonious experience. Consequently, what they get is an intellectual idea about harmony.
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The special self expects others not to question its story of greatness but to adapt to it so that they appear ordinary and the special self original. It is its way of hiding that it feels inferior. However, if not hiding that, feeling worthless can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ Thus revealing it is coupled with feeling extraordinary to define worthless and vice versa, so you get genuine feelings, not conceptual ones.
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In a world of duality, everything comes in pairs of opposites that interact with each other. Therefore, since nothing is definitive, you only appear empathic if you construct an image of yourself where its counterpart, hatred, has been left out. But without it, there is nothing to define empathy. Hence your empathy is a show.
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When you disassociate yourself from one of the elements in a duality pair by imagining dumping it in your body onto your body or seeing it as describing someone else, it becomes substantial, thus enduring instead of fleeting when in your psychological sphere. Thus you feel imprisoned. Fortunately, as you already know, perceiving your reaction as ‘it is what it is’ sets you free.
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Being with duality is easy when you stop holding onto something specific. That does not mean you cannot have a particular spouse but that your reaction to the relationship is twofold.
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You either breathe in or out. One excludes the other. Yet, they pave the way for one another. That is the way of the duality pairs.
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If you want positivity, you must also welcome negativity because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality. In non-duality, you can neither have negative nor positive vibes because it requires more than one to have anything. Since that also applies to having a shape, non-duality is formless, thus endless, so a world of duality is an illusion. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
When your attitude to something is single-minded, you get a specific experience. But it does not last because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality. Therefore, feeling on top of it is soon replaced by feeling down. However, if your approach is dualistic, you do not aim for the top to avoid depression but go for the constant interplay of up and down. Although it may not feel as exciting as being at the top, there is no fear of falling because you are in the duality flow.
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The duality flow depends not on the specific elements in a duality pair but on the resilient energy between them – like the springy drive that makes a yoyo go up and down.
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If you feel you have nowhere to go and do not perceive it as a singular state of mind but a dualistic one containing nowhere and everywhere, you are in the duality flow. The same applies if you go with the interplay of irritation and relaxation. However, the duality flow is not about the elements in the duality pairs but their interaction. That is what makes you feel complete – just like the interplay of breathing in and out makes you feel alive.
And like the opposing elements in the breath depend on each other, so do the components in all duality pairs. Therefore, if you are not in the constant interplay of positivity and negativity, for example, what you believe in feeling when you claim to be positive is a concept conjured up by distancing yourself from negativity. But that is like separating yourself from either breathing in or out. You need them both to survive.
In short, in a world of duality, you keep the duality pairs intact to be vitalised by the duality flow.
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The satisfaction you get from being in the duality flow is unlike what you get from something specific because you are always afraid of losing it, whereas you cannot lose the duality flow. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
You do not have to choose between good and evil in the duality flow. They complement each other. Therefore, since one is not better than the other, there is nothing to judge, thus nothing to establish fear as a specific feeling. Instead, you notice that it interacts with trust.
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In a world of duality, everything comes in pairs of opposing components that depend on each other. Thus splitting them into independent elements to hold onto just one of them and disassociate yourself from the other is impossible. Yet, it is possible to imagine you can get rid of your negativity by projecting it onto others, thus appearing solely cheerful yourself. However, you feel sluggish since this mental stance is achieved by repressing part of yourself. On the other hand, you feel energetic following the duality flow because twofoldness is the nature of duality.
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If you are into being and having the best, the duality flow may be an experience of continuous movement between the best and the worst. Should you want to be spiritual, the motion is probably between that and materialism. The duality flow could also go between hope and hopelessness or between what you hold dear and fear.
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Since the perception ‘it is what it is’ reveals that your response to something is twofold, and you are in a world of duality, it brings about completeness. However, as everything comes in pairs, completeness is coupled with incompleteness. No worries, you are neither whole nor fragmented but in the constant motion between these opposites – just like when one end of a see-saw goes up, the other goes down.
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Should things not proceed as expected, when you are in the duality flow, you are not afraid of getting upset because you know everything comes in pairs. Therefore, since your concern is complemented by unconcern, the duality flow continues uninterrupted. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
Accepting the constant interaction between up and down makes you laugh when reaching the top. And you cry going down, knowing you are on the way up. Thus having a splendid time going up and down in a world of duality.
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You can use unmanipulated breathing as a portal to the vibration AUM, Soham, and The Word of God symbolises (read about that here). And you can also use it to get in touch with the empty breath (see Duality hack #9 In the bliss of nothing with the empty breath). But basically, the breath is a manifestation of duality. Hence it is the easiest way to be in the duality flow. At least, theoretically speaking.
But practically speaking, most hang onto specific ideas and emotions to feel special by holding their breath, thus unable to go with its rhythmic flow, so they miss the duality flow. That is why Alexius’ Enlightened Non-Teachings’ recommends perceiving your fixed judgments as ‘it is what it is’ so you see they are not static but very involved with their opponent. And since they do not fight but collaborate to define each other, their interplay makes you genuinely feel them, thus feeling complete as nobody special in the duality flow.
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Since everything comes in pairs in a world of duality, there is no sense in searching for something specific. That is such a relief.
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You become likeable when you do not hide what you do not like in yourself from your awareness by projecting it onto the body. That is the first step in healing a psychosomatic disorder. See Duality Hack #7 Physical & non-physical issues do not mix. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
Most of those who believe that negativity should be avoided, like using crystal stones for healing. But many of these stones, like Amethyst, heal by emitting negative ions producing biochemical reactions that create positive vibes/moods and relieve stress. And most infrared heating pads heal via negative ion generation.
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Those who assume they suffer from a psychosomatic disorder have projected politically incorrect feelings like sexual lust, power strivings, greed, envy and anger onto vulnerable parts of the body, like some project offensive feelings onto the world.
However, since these emotions are abstract, they cannot be hidden in something tangible. Therefore, projecting abstract feelings onto something substantial only conceals them from your awareness. Nonetheless, most believe their problems are gone when out of sight. Just like an ostrich, according to myth, believes danger disappears when it buries its head in the sand.
This myth, though, is not valid. If an ostrich buries its head in the sand, it dies from a lack of air. And you wither from the lack of collaboration between positivity and negativity if you hide the latter from yourself with a head-in-the-sand approach. In other words, you must acknowledge that positivity is paired with negativity, thus twofold, to have the belief in duality.
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Going with the duality flow, hate does not make you frown but smile :) Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
If you want the satisfaction of the duality flow, it is essential not to focus on anything specific. The same applies if you wish to undo the belief in duality. Therefore, since the perception ‘it is what it is’ cancels out anything specific, you kill two birds with one stone by applying it.
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Having established ‘it is what it is’ as your default perception, you are always in the togetherness of the duality flow, thus feeling plentiful and not needy as when you divide the duality pairs into separate components.
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To feel important is a single-minded notion that has been separated from its counterpart. Hence it brings about loneliness. But in the duality flow, importance interacts with unimportance, so you get togetherness.
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When you have followed the duality flow for some time, the particular state of mind you formerly conjured up to feel at ease is forever out of reach since everything is seen as twofold. What that means, you do not know. Nor do you care because you feel completed by the constant interaction of opposites, thus no need for a specific state of mind to escape feeling disturbed.
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In the duality flow, our response to something is not singular but twofold, wherefore, nothing is considered distinctly right or wrong. So it is not problematic if you appear clumsy and do not judge it as right or wrong.
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Being intuitive, you do not try to interfere with the brain. Thus you are in the duality flow.
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It is relaxing and energising not to control your appearance but go with the duality flow. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
Being in the duality flow is like having an electronic calendar. The appropriate thoughts automatically pop up when needed.
However, not systematically, like when seeds are planted in rows to get the most in return, but in the creative way of nature that enthusiastically throws seeds everywhere, getting a kick out of seeing new combinations evolve. In other words, since the duality flow does not result in something totalitarian or upholds a categorical style, following the flow is unpredictable except for having fun. But please remember that as everything is twofold, you do not have fun without feeling bored. Fortunately, that is not a problem in the duality flow because the interaction of opposites feels entertaining.
Regarding planning, since the brain is always in charge, you do neither have to plan anything when not in the duality flow. But you probably assume you know better, thus dismissing the brain’s signals. However, you only seem to be doing things in your way and pace because you, in retrospect, edit your experiences so they confirm everything has turned out as planned – like you shape a chaotic dream through words like patterns, displacement activity, unity, synchronicity and karma to make it consistent with your point of view.
But editing your experiences to look like you are in the know is exhausting and limits you by your conditioned view. In contrast, going with the experiences as they are effortless and not restricting you to a conditioned view of the world.
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You suppress your reaction to the world to prevent seeing that your complaints about it are misplaced because you are not restricted by it but by your totalitarian ideas.
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The purpose of Alexius’ Enlightened Non-Teaching is not to explain the truth but to show there is nothing to explain because it requires more than one to do so, and there is no more than that which is one since it is formless, thus endless. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.
Long ago, Alexius conditioned himself to hide his sadness behind justified anger and disgust. That changed when he did not try to hide or rationalise it but felt it so he could perceive it as ‘it is what it is.’ thus seeing a little boy floating on waves of happiness inside his sadness.
In other words, when he saw his sadness was paired with happiness, he stopped fencing off sadness to look okay. Instead, the interaction of happiness and sadness became his basic experience of the duality flow.
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Fortunately, you do not need to understand the nature of duality to be vitalised by the duality flow. If you perceive your single-minded response to an experience as ‘it is what it is,’ you sense it is not singular but twofold. Hence you are in sync with duality.
You can also get there by entering a state of not-knowing because you come out of this state with your slate wiped clean, thus being the basic self dedicated to duality. Read more about that in A state of not-knowing and the after-effect.
Therefore, since you do not attempt to pull apart the duality pairs into independent elements fighting each other but comply with their synergy, the collaboration of love and hate, for example, gives you the complete relationship experience.
NOTE: This article is part of Duality Hack #8 The duality flow goes to non-duality.
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