Notes on ‘the duality flow’ [draft]

Updated May 19, 2022

Comparing desiring for something with the drawback of getting it is a typical interplay of opposites in a world of duality. Going with this interaction, you feel complete, thus indifferent to the outcome. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When your attitude to something is single-minded, you get a specific peak experience. But this does not go on for long because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality. Thus being at the top is soon replaced by being at the bottom. On the other hand, if your approach to something is dualistic, you do not head specifically for the top but the constant interplay of the highest and the lowest. Thus you are the duality flow, which may not be as exciting an experience as solely being at the top. However, it continues to amuse you.

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The duality flow does not depend on the specific elements in a duality pair but on the resilient energy between them – like the springy drive that makes a yoyo going up and down.

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You either breathe in or out. One excludes the other. Yet, they pave the way for one another. That is the way of the duality flow.

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When you feel you have nowhere to go and do not perceive it as a singular state of mind but a dualistic one containing nowhere and everywhere to go, you are in the duality flow. The same applies if you go with the interplay of irritation and relaxation. But the duality flow is not about the opposing elements in the duality pairs but their interaction. That is what makes you feel complete – just like it is the interplay of breathing in and out that makes you feel alive.

And like the opposing elements in the breath depend on each other, so do the components in other duality pairs. Thus you can only feel positive when contrasted with negativity. So if you are not in the constant interplay of positivity and negativity, what you believe in feeling when you claim to be positive is a concept conjured up by distancing yourself from negativity via meditation, for example. This is like separating yourself from either breathing in or out. You need them both to survive.

To make long short, the solution to everything in a world of duality is to keep the duality pairs intact so that the duality flow can vitalise you.

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That something is ugly is not a fact, but how you have decided to perceive it. This singular Interpretation prevents you from seeing it as it is. Everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality, so what you see is as beautiful as it is ugly. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You do not have to choose between good and evil in the duality flow. They compliment each other. Therefore, since one is not better than the other, there is nothing to judge, thus not something to establish fear as a specific feeling. Instead, you feel it is interacting trust.

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Being in the duality flow, you forget about what you used to be. It was based on single-minded concepts, and you are not someone specific in the duality flow but relative to the constant movement between opposites. See also The basic self is relative to the brain, thus without egoistic intentions.

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Everything comes in pairs of opposing components that lean on each other in a world of duality. Thus splitting them into independent elements to hold onto just one of them is impossible. Yet, it is possible to imagine you can get rid of your negativity by projecting it onto others to appear solely positive yourself. However, since this mental stance is achieved by repressing part of yourself, you feel sluggish. On the other hand, following the duality flow brings about energy because the constant interaction of opposing elements is the natural state of duality.

If you are into being and having the best, the duality flow experience may be a continuous movement between the best and the worst. Should you want to be spiritual, the motion is most likely between that and materialism. The duality flow could also go between hope and hopelessness or between whatever you hold dear and what you fear.

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Since the perception ‘it is what it is’ reveals that every experience is twofold and you are in a world of duality, it brings about completeness. However, as everything comes in pairs, completeness is coupled with incompleteness. No worries, you are neither whole nor fragmented but in the constant motion between these opposites – just like when one end of a see-saw goes up, the other goes down.

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What you need to prepare for something automatically in the duality flow. Should things not proceed as you expect, you are not afraid of getting upset because you know everything comes in pairs. Therefore, since your concern is complemented with unconcern, the duality flow continues. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Having established’ it is what it is’ as your default perception, you are always in the togetherness of the duality flow, thus feeling plentiful instead of needy when separating the duality pairs into separate components.

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The satisfaction you get from being in the duality flow is not like what you get from something perceived as specific. This is because you are always afraid of losing that, whereas it is impossible to lose the duality flow.

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Since everything comes in pairs in a world of duality, there is no sense in searching for something specific. This is such a relief.

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If you want the satisfaction of the duality flow, it is essential not to focus on anything specific. The same applies if you wish to undo the belief in duality. Therefore, since the perception ‘it is what it is’ cancels out anything specific, you kill two birds with one stone by applying it.

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None of the opposing elements in the duality pairs is essential. Instead, their interaction matters because it constitutes the duality flow. You will follow it when you are tired of feeling incomplete.

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A long time ago, Alexius conditioned himself to hide his sorrow behind justified anger and disgust. That changed when he did not try to hide or rationalise his grief but perceived his reaction to it as ‘it is what it is,’ Then, he sensed that a little boy was floating on waves of sweet nectar inside his sorrow.

Therefore, since he saw sorrow was paired with mellowness, he did not try to fence off the grief anymore to feel good. Actually, sadness automatically triggers the happiness inside it. Hence being in the interaction of happiness and sadness became his basic experience of the duality flow.

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Going with the duality flow, hate does not make you frown but smile :) Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Importance is a single-minded notion that has been separated from its counterpart. Hence it brings about loneliness. But in the duality flow, importance interacts with unimportance. Thus you get togetherness.

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Feeling good is not a matter of making the body relax but how you perceive your reaction to its condition. For example, if your response is irritation, you assume your body is its source. But you cannot improve anything in the body so as not to feel disturbed because the problem is in your perception. This does not mean you instantly feel relaxed if you perceive your reaction to the body’s condition as ‘it is what it is,’ but you see relaxation is coupled with unhappiness. Hence you feel relaxed if you stand by your irritation instead of blaming the body for it.

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Having followed the duality flow for some time, the specific state of mind you used to conjure up to feel at ease is forever out of reach. Now everything is seen as twofold. What this means, you do not know. Nor do you care because you feel complete by the constant interaction of opposites. Hence there is no need for a specific state of mind or perspective to escape feeling disturbed.

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In the duality flow, you feel complete, so although you may seem as clumsy as ever, it does not make you feel wrong.

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If you succeed in letting go of your hatred, you also get rid of the ability to feel love because everything comes in pairs of opposing elements that define each other. Hate defines love and vice versa, so you cannot have one without the other.

Therefore, to quickly get back the love you have discarded by projecting your hate onto others, you perceive ‘their’ hate as ‘it is what it is.’ This reveals it is coupled with love. And since you can only see what you have, you feel the togetherness of love and hate inside you. Read here about quickly bringing back your repressed emotions by seeing them in others.

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It is relaxing and energising, not to control your appearance but go with the duality flow – as you go with the flow of the waves when swimming. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Your response to something is not singular but twofold when you are in the duality flow. Therefore, since nothing is considered distinctly right or wrong, nothing is seen as problematic. But since most people are identified with their problems, they hang onto them by maintaining their conditioned views of right and wrong, although it makes them feel imprisoned. However, they can have their problems and still feel free if they do not judge them as precisely right or wrong but instead go with the interaction of right and wrong. For example, if you appear to be clumsy and do not judge that to be right or wrong, you have your problem, but it is not problematic.

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Being intuitive, you do not try to interfere with the brain. Thus you are in the duality flow.

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We usually do not think about how to digest the food we eat because it happens by itself. You do not even have to plan to prepare a meal when in the duality flow.* It may not occur, though, in the systematised way you were used to but in the spontaneous way of nature. It does not plant seeds in rows to get the most in return but enthusiastically throws them everywhere to see what happens. Nor does it build something totalitarian, such as Bauhaus or construct a meal in a categorical style like Nordic. To make long short, following the duality flow** is never definitive.

Therefore, although preparing dinner seems more unpredictable, you can count on having fun because your experience is in sync with the present moment. But if you repeat the same procedure another day, it will not feel like a comedy. Every day is a new surprise. That said, there may be a period of transition where you try to hold onto your old single-minded perceptions of how to cook. When it does not work, thus triggering old feelings of despair, you are about to cry.

The solution is not to stop the discomfort but to stand by it, so the definitive meaning you have decided it has can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ This reveals your opinion is not singular but twofold. And since you are in a world of duality, it makes you feel complete. Eventually, so much that you realise you are nothing but appearance. Hence there does not seem to be someone to hide that non-duality is all there is and always was.

That said, you neither have to plan your dinner yourself when not in the duality flow because the brain is always in charge. If the making of the dinner seemed to go according to your plan, it is because you, in retrospect, interpreted it, so it turned out as hoped for. Just like you shape a dream with words like patterns, displacement activity, unity synchronicity and karma to make it consistent with your point of view. However, editing your experiences is exhausting, and it makes you feel incomplete. But going with them as they are is effortless, you feel complete because you gry the interaction of opposites, thus the duality flow.

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The opposing elements in the duality pairs you encounter are equally valued in the duality flow. Thus it is probably the closest you get to being singular in a world of duality. This might be why the more you are in the duality flow, the more you forget to believe there is more than one. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

At first, it may seem confusing to be in the duality flow. It is like having vertigo. But, fortunately, without the visions of the world spinning around you. Inside you, there is constant movement between opposites. Thus nothing definitive you can use to navigate your way in the world. No worries. There never was. It was just something you made up to feel in control. Now you know that was a lie. Hence you are free to go with the duality flow.

But getting to this point may be difficult for those who consider themselves spiritual. They often hide their feelings in an attempt to appear detached. But if you do not feel your emotions, they cannot be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ Hence they remain as specific feelings in the dark, and you go on in the benumbed state that

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Alexius’ Duality Hacks logically concludes that since it takes more than one to have a shape, oneness is formless, thus endless. Consequently, there is no more than that which is One. But since it takes more than one to read this, you believe it is possible to be and have more than one.

No worries, continuing as if you are someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, you honour your choice to believe it is possible to be and have more than one. Hence you are in a position to undo it. If you do that by bidding welcome the enlightenment of that which is One, the undoing does not occur gradually but straight away without warning (see hack #6.1 From the inward-facing senses through a black hole into that which is One).

But since the temporal length of an event is an illusion, you may take your time and begin following the duality flow so you can enjoy appearing to be and have more than one until this experience, like anything else that has a beginning, ends without any effort of yours.


*) This is not to say that you never need to think ahead to get something done. But thoughts for that come automatically when you are in the duality flow.

**) Actually, preparing something is not more unpredictable when following the duality flow. It only seems so because when not in the duality flow, you cut off everything from your awareness that does not confirm you are in control.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality. It is a rough draft that will be continuously updated.