Notes on ‘the duality flow’

Updated January 2, 2023

The basic self does not need to edit the experience of the world into something that complies with special concepts of being together in harmony, balance or whatnot. On the contrary, since everything experienced is created by the brain, the basic self is together with everything, regardless of appearance. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When you perceive yourself as special, you constantly look for somebody to ratify your significance (read more about that here). But as closeness may reveal that your need to meet others is egoistic, you substitute genuine feelings of togetherness with conceptualised ones. So, for example, you adjust to the table manners of a traditional dinner party to appear close without actually being intimate – or you get popcorn and a classic movie to rewatch with someone as if you are close.

On the other hand, the basic self is not someone specific. It is relative to the moment put together by the experiences produced by the brain. Hence it has nothing to lose by genuinely feeling the present – nor if it seems frightening because fear is defined by calmness which defines fear, so the experience of them is genuine. Therefore, since you are in sync with your dualistic nature, you feel amused following the interaction of opposites.

Practically speaking, you get into the interaction of opposites by not accepting fear as a specific feeling. However, that does not mean you should avoid it. On the contrary, you acknowledge it to perceive it as ‘it is what it is,’ which reveals fear is not a specific feeling because it constantly interacts with its opposite, calmness, so that they can define each other. And since twofoldness is the nature of dualism, this establishes you as someone in a world of duality, wherefore you can hack it. Fortunately, going with the interaction of opposites, called the duality flow, you have fun while hacking duality.

That said, when you are not interested in being special, thus going on automatic gear as the basic self, you do not have to perceive specific feelings as ‘it is what it is.’ The brain automatically does that. Maybe it does not perceive them using those words. But you know specific feelings have been exposed as twofold when you cannot help but laugh, feeling the duality flow.

However, you do not laugh when not in the duality flow because being stuck in a specific feeling makes you nervous. Maybe you feel it in the stomach because to feel only positive, you suppress your negativity by projecting it onto a vulnerable part of the body. But you do not need to know what you have hidden to solve the problem of feeling confined by singleness. If you perceive your reaction to the upset stomach as ‘it is what it is,’ you see your response is twofold. Since that makes you feel complete, you have nothing to worry about.

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Comparing the desire for something to see the drawback of getting it is a typical interplay of opposites in a world of duality. Going with this interaction, you feel complete, thus indifferent to the outcome. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You must judge something as inharmonious to know when you experience something harmonious. But as most people after that exclude the inharmonious, there is not something to define the harmonious experience. Consequently, what they get is an intellectual idea about harmony.

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The special self expects others not to question its story of greatness but to adapt to it so that the world appears ordinary and the special self seems original. It is its way of hiding that it feels inferior. However, if not hiding that, feeling worthless can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ Thus revealing it is coupled with feeling extraordinary to define each other, so you get genuine feelings, not conceptual ones.

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Splitting a duality pair into two distinct elements by projecting one of them onto your body or the world, none is genuine anymore because they need each other to be defined. Therefore, since they both become substantial, thus enduring instead of fleeting, you feel imprisoned by them. Fortunately, as you already know, ‘it is what it is’ undoes your fixed idea about what you feel.

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When you follow the nature of duality, it does not seem to have a hold on you, whereas fighting it makes you feel imprisoned. Being with duality is easy when you stop holding onto something specific. That does not mean you cannot have a particular spouse but that your reaction to the relationship is twofold.

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You either breathe in or out. One excludes the other. Yet, they pave the way for one another. That is the way of the duality pairs.

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If you want positivity, you must also welcome negativity because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality. In non-duality, you can neither have negative nor positive vibes because it requires more than one to have anything. Since that also applies to having a shape, non-duality is formless, thus endless, wherefore a world of duality is an illusion. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When your attitude to something is single-minded, you get a specific peak experience. But this does not last because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality. Thus being at the top is soon replaced by being at the bottom. But if your approach is dualistic, you do not head specifically for the top but for the constant interplay of the highest and the lowest. Thus you are in the duality flow, which may not be as exciting an experience as solely being at the top. However, it continues to amuse you.

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The duality flow depends not on the specific elements in a duality pair but on the resilient energy between them – like the springy drive that makes a yoyo go up and down.

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If you feel you have nowhere to go and do not perceive it as a singular state of mind but a dualistic one containing nowhere and everywhere, you are in the duality flow. The same applies if you go with the interplay of irritation and relaxation. However, the duality flow is not about the opposing elements in the duality pairs but their interaction. That is what makes you feel complete – just like the interplay of breathing in and out makes you feel alive.

And like the opposing elements in the breath depend on each other, so do the components in other duality pairs. That is why you can only feel positive when contrasted with negativity. So if you are not in the constant interplay of positivity and negativity, what you believe in feeling when you claim to be positive is a concept conjured up by distancing yourself from negativity via meditation, for example. That is like separating yourself from either breathing in or out. You need them both to survive.

In short, in a world of duality, you keep the duality pairs intact so that the duality flow can vitalise you.

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That something is ugly is not a fact, but how you have decided to perceive it. This singular Interpretation prevents you from seeing it as it is, namely, as beautiful as it is ugly. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You do not have to choose between good and evil in the duality flow. They complement each other. Therefore, since one is not better than the other, there is nothing to judge, thus nothing to establish fear as a specific feeling. Instead, you feel it interacts with trust.

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In a world of duality, everything comes in pairs of opposing components that depend on each other. Thus splitting them into independent elements to hold onto just one of them and disassociate yourself from the other is impossible. Yet, it is possible to imagine you can get rid of your negativity by projecting it onto others, thus appearing solely positive yourself. However, you feel sluggish since this mental stance is achieved by repressing part of yourself. On the other hand, you feel energetic following the duality flow because twofoldness is the nature of duality.

If you are into being and having the best, the duality flow experience may be a continuous movement between the best and the worst. Should you want to be spiritual, the motion is probably between that and materialism. The duality flow could also go between hope and hopelessness or between what you hold dear and fear.

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Since the perception ‘it is what it is’ reveals that your response to something is twofold, and you are in a world of duality, it brings about completeness. However, as everything comes in pairs, completeness is coupled with incompleteness. No worries, you are neither whole nor fragmented but in the constant motion between these opposites – just like when one end of a see-saw goes up, the other goes down.

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When someone is hurt in a movie, you may feel pain and relived when the problem is fixed. But since the film is not perceived as real, you feel entertained by going up and downs. That is how it is to be connected with the empty breath.

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Should things not proceed as expected, when you are in the duality flow, you are not afraid of getting upset because you know everything comes in pairs. Therefore, since your concern is complemented by unconcern, the duality flow continues uninterrupted. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Having established ‘it is what it is’ as your default perception, you are always in the togetherness of the duality flow, thus feeling plentiful and not needy as when you divide the duality pairs into separate components.

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The satisfaction you get from being in the duality flow is unlike what you get from something perceived as specific because you are always afraid of losing it, whereas you cannot lose the duality flow.

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Since everything comes in pairs in a world of duality, there is no sense in searching for something specific. That is such a relief.

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If you want the satisfaction of the duality flow, it is essential not to focus on anything specific. The same applies if you wish to undo the belief in duality. Therefore, since the perception ‘it is what it is’ cancels out anything specific, you kill two birds with one stone by applying it.

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A long time ago, Alexius conditioned himself to hide his sorrow behind justified anger and disgust. That changed when he did not try to hide or rationalise his grief but perceived his reaction to it as ‘it is what it is.’ Then, he met a little boy floating on waves of sweet nectar inside his sorrow.

Therefore, since he saw sorrow was paired with mellowness, he stopped fencing off sadness to feel good. Instead, the interaction of happiness and sadness became his basic experience of the duality flow.

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Going with the duality flow, hate does not make you frown but smile :) Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

To feel important is a single-minded notion that has been separated from its counterpart. Hence it brings about loneliness. But in the duality flow, importance interacts with unimportance. Thus you get togetherness.

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Feeling good is not about making the body relax but how you perceive your reaction to its condition. For example, if your response is irritation, you assume your body is its source. But relaxing your body will not make you feel better psychologically because the problem is not in your body but in your reaction. When you perceive that as ‘it is what it is, you see, irritation is coupled with pleasure, and they depend on each other to be genuinely experienced. Therefore, since you cannot have irritation without pleasure and vice versa, you feel delighted when you see your irritation as dual, thus having nothing to blame the body for.

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Having followed the duality flow for some time, the specific state of mind you used to conjure up to feel at ease is forever out of reach. Now everything is seen as twofold. What that means, you do not know. Nor do you care because you feel completed by the constant interaction of opposites. Hence there is no need for a specific state of mind or perspective to escape feeling disturbed.

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If you succeed in letting go of your hatred, you also get rid of the ability to feel love because everything comes in pairs of opposing elements that define each other. Hate defines love and vice versa, so you cannot have one without the other.

Therefore, to quickly get back the love you have discarded by projecting your hate onto others, you perceive ‘their’ hate as ‘it is what it is.’ That reveals it is coupled with love. And since you can only see what you have, you feel the togetherness of love and hate in yourself. Read here about quickly bringing back your repressed emotions by seeing them in others.

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It is relaxing and energising not to control your appearance but go with the duality flow – as you go with the flow of the waves when swimming. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

In the duality flow, our response to something is not singular but twofold. Therefore, nothing is problematic since nothing is considered distinctly right or wrong. However, most people are identified with their problems, so they hang onto them by maintaining their conditioned views of right and wrong, although it makes them feel imprisoned.

In contrast, they can have their issues and feel free from them if not judged as definitely right or wrong but instead going with the interaction of right and wrong. So, for example, if you appear clumsy and do not judge that as right or wrong, you have your problem, but it is not problematic.

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Being intuitive, you do not try to interfere with the brain. Thus you are in the duality flow.

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You do not have to plan when in the duality flow. That is not to say that you never need to think ahead to get something done. But the appropriate thoughts pop up automatically when you are in the duality flow. They may not come in a systematised way but in the spontaneous way of nature.

It does not plant seeds in rows to get the most in return but enthusiastically throws them everywhere to see what happens. Nor does it build something totalitarian like Bauhaus or construct a meal in a categorical style like Nordic. In other words, following the duality flow, nothing is predictable except having fun because your experience is in sync with the present moment.

That said, you neither have to plan when you are not in the duality flow because the brain is always in charge. So if an event seemed to go according to your plan, it is because you, in retrospect, interpreted it, so it turned out as hoped for – like you shape a chaotic dream with words such as patterns, displacement activity, unity, synchronicity and karma to make it seem consistent with your point of view. However, editing your experiences is exhausting, and it limits you by your conditioned view. In contrast, it is effortless going with the experiences as they are, thus not restricted to being someone definitive.

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There is no truth to extract from Alexius’ Enlightened Non-Teachings. They are a part of a world where there seems to be more than one, and such a world is non-existing because there is no more than that which is One since it is formless, thus endless. Hence, the basic and special self’s differentiation and perceptions are nonsense.

Nevertheless, that craziness can be beneficial in exposing the absurdity of believing to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.