Notes on ‘the duality flow’ 1/2 [draft]

Updated October 4, 2022

The basic self does not need to edit the experience of the world into something that complies with special concepts of being together in harmony, balance or whatnot. On the contrary, since everything it experiences is created by the brain, the basic self is together with everything, regardless of appearance. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When you perceive yourself not as basic but as special, you constantly look for somebody to ratify your significance (read more about that here). But as closeness may reveal your need to meet others is egoistic, you substitute genuine feelings of togetherness with conceptualised ones. For example, you adjust to the table manners of a traditional dinner party, so you appear to be together without actually being close to anybody – or you buy popcorn and find a classic movie to see again with someone imagined close to you.

On the other hand, the basic self does not fear being exposed as phoney. It is not someone specific but relative to the moment put together by the experiences produced by the brain. Hence it has nothing to lose by genuinely feeling the present – nor if it seems frightening because fear is defined by calmness. Consequently, there is no genuine feeling of fear without a sense of calm and vice versa. Long story short, since you are in sync with your dualistic nature when your emotions are defined by their opposite, you feel amused following the interaction of opposites.

Practically speaking, you get into the interaction of opposites by not accepting fear as a specific feeling. However, that does not mean you should avoid it. On the contrary, you acknowledge it to perceive it as ‘it is what it is.’ That reveals fear is not a specific feeling because it constantly interacts with its opposite, calmness. And since twofoldness is the nature of dualism, this establishes you as someone in a world of duality, wherefore you can hack it. Fortunately, going with the interaction of opposites, called the duality flow, you have fun while hacking duality. Read more about that in hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.

That said, when you are not interested in being special or accept going on automatic gear, you do not have to perceive specific feelings as ‘it is what it is.’ The brain automatically does it. Maybe not in those words. But you know specific feelings have been exposed as twofold because you cannot help but laugh when you feel the duality flow.

But you do not laugh when not in the duality flow because being stuck with a specific feeling makes you nervous. You probably feel it in the stomach because to only feel positive, for example, you suppress your negativity by projecting it onto a vulnerable part of the body, often the stomach. However, you do not need to know what you have suppressed to solve the problem of feeling confined by singleness. If you perceive your reaction to the upset stomach as ‘it is what it is,’ you see your response is twofold. Since that makes you feel complete, you have nothing to worry about.

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Comparing desiring for something with the drawback of getting it is a typical interplay of opposites in a world of duality. Going with this interaction, you feel complete, thus indifferent to the outcome. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Splitting a duality pair into two distinct elements by suppressing one of them, none of them is genuine anymore because they need each other to be defined. For example, positivity needs negativity to define it and vice versa. Therefore, since they both become conceptualised, thus enduring instead of fleeting, your perception of yourself is conditioned by them. Fortunately, as you already know, ‘it is what it is’ undoes your fixed idea about what you are.

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You either breathe in or out. One excludes the other. Yet, they pave the way for one another. That is the way of the duality pairs.

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When you follow the nature of duality, it does not seem to have a hold on you, whereas fighting it makes you feel imprisoned. To go with duality is easy, you just stop holding onto something specific. That does not mean you cannot have a specific spouse but that your reaction to the other constantly is twofold.

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The special self expects others not to question its story of greatness but to adapt to it so that the world appears ordinary and the special self is original. That is its way of hiding it feels inferior. However, if not hiding that, feeling worthless can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ Thus revealing it is coupled with feeling extraordinary, and they define each other in constant interaction, wherefore you get a genuine feeling, not a conceptual one.

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When your attitude to something is single-minded, you get a specific peak experience. But this does not go on for long because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality. Thus being at the top is soon replaced by being at the bottom. On the other hand, if your approach to something is dualistic, you do not head specifically for the top but for the constant interplay of the highest and the lowest. Thus you are the duality flow, which may not be as exciting an experience as solely being at the top. However, it continues to amuse you.

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The duality flow depends not on the specific elements in a duality pair but on the resilient energy between them – like the springy drive that makes a yoyo going up and down.

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If you want positivity, you must also welcome negativity because everything comes in pairs in a world of duality. In non-duality, you can neither have negative nor positive vibes because it requires more than one to have something. Since that also applies to having a shape, non-duality is formless, thus endless, wherefore a world of duality is an illusion. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If you feel you have nowhere to go and do not perceive it as a particular state of mind but a dualistic one containing nowhere and everywhere to go, you are in the duality flow. The same applies if you go with the interplay of irritation and relaxation. But the duality flow is not about the opposing elements in the duality pairs but their interaction. That is what makes you feel complete – just like the interplay of breathing in and out makes you feel alive.

And like the opposing elements in the breath depend on each other, so do the components in other duality pairs. Thus you can only feel positive when contrasted with negativity. So if you are not in the constant interplay of positivity and negativity, what you believe in feeling when you claim to be positive is a concept conjured up by distancing yourself from negativity via meditation, for example. That is like separating yourself from either breathing in or out. You need them both to survive.

In short, the solution to everything in a world of duality is to keep the duality pairs intact so that the duality flow can vitalise you.

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Excluding negativity, darkness, anger or whatever do-gooders have told prevents you from feeling good, destroys the foundation of duality. It is made by dividing everything into pairs such as positive and negative, light and dark, anger and delight. But since it takes more than one to destroy something, you also enhance the belief in duality.

You can solve this ambivalence by playing the game of duality or undoing it. You play the game of duality by perceiving your negative reaction to something as ‘it is what it is.’ This perception reveals negativity paired with positivity. However, it is not positivity that satisfies you but the interaction of that and negativity. Especially because it sets off the interplay of other pairs of duality. Thus you are in the duality flow.

One way to undo the game of duality is to keep playing it because everything with a beginning is bound to end. However, that seems to take some time, so if you want to undo it right away, apply hack #6.1 The Enlightenment of that which is One.

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That something is ugly is not a fact, but how you have decided to perceive it. This singular Interpretation prevents you from seeing it as it is. Everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality, so what you see is as beautiful as it is ugly. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You do not have to choose between good and evil in the duality flow. They complement each other. Therefore, since one is not better than the other, there is nothing to judge, thus not something to establish fear as a specific feeling. Instead, you feel it is interacting trust.

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Being in the duality flow, you forget about what you were used to being. It was based on single-minded concepts, and you are not someone specific in the duality flow but relative to the constant movement between opposites. See also The basic self is relative to the brain, thus without egoistic intentions.

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Everything comes in pairs of opposing components that lean on each other in a world of duality. Thus splitting them into independent elements to hold onto just one of them is impossible. Yet, it is possible to imagine you can get rid of your negativity by projecting it onto others to appear solely positive yourself. However, you feel sluggish since this mental stance is achieved by repressing part of yourself. On the other hand, following the duality flow brings about energy because the constant interaction of opposing elements is the natural state of duality.

If you are into being and having the best, the duality flow experience may be a continuous movement between the best and the worst. Should you want to be spiritual, the motion is most likely between that and materialism. The duality flow could also go between hope and hopelessness or between whatever you hold dear and what you fear.

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Since the perception ‘it is what it is’ reveals that every experience is twofold and you are in a world of duality, it brings about completeness. However, as everything comes in pairs, completeness is coupled with incompleteness. No worries, you are neither whole nor fragmented but in the constant motion between these opposites – just like when one end of a see-saw goes up, the other goes down.

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When someone is hurt in a movie you watch, you may also feel pain and relief when the problem is fixed. But since the film is not perceived as real, it seems entertaining to participate in its ups and downs. That is how it is to be connected with the empty breath.

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What you must prepare for automatically pops up when following the duality flow. Should things not proceed as expected, you are not afraid of getting upset because you know everything comes in pairs. Therefore, the duality flow continues since your concern is complemented with unconcern. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Having established ‘it is what it is’ as your default perception, you are always in the togetherness of the duality flow, thus feeling plentiful instead of needy when separating the duality pairs into separate components.

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The satisfaction you get from being in the duality flow is unlike what you get from something perceived as specific. That is because you are always afraid of losing that, whereas it is impossible to lose the duality flow.

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Since everything comes in pairs in a world of duality, there is no sense in searching for something specific. That is such a relief.

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If you want the satisfaction of the duality flow, it is essential not to focus on anything specific. The same applies if you wish to undo the belief in duality. Therefore, since the perception ‘it is what it is’ cancels out anything specific, you kill two birds with one stone by applying it.

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None of the opposing elements in the duality pairs is essential. Instead, their interaction matters because it constitutes the duality flow. You will follow it when you are tired of feeling incomplete.

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A long time ago, Alexius conditioned himself to hide his sorrow behind justified anger and disgust. That changed when he did not try to hide or rationalise his grief but perceived his reaction to it as ‘it is what it is,’ Then, he sensed that a little boy was floating on waves of sweet nectar inside his sorrow.

Therefore, since he saw sorrow was paired with mellowness, he did not try to fence off the grief anymore to feel good. Actually, sadness automatically triggers the happiness inside it. Hence being in the interaction of happiness and sadness became his basic experience of the duality flow.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.