‘What if…?’ vs ‘it is what it is’

Updated May 8, 2023

Spirituality is that which is One. And since it takes more than one to become something, you cannot become spiritual unless you believe it is possible to be and have more than that which is One. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.

This article is a continuation of Sadness is a close friend of gladness about the perception ‘it is what it is,’ revealing every experience is dual. Adjusting to twofoldness, you feel so complete in a world of duality that you eventually forget to remember being there.

You need to be fully anchored in the belief that you are someone in a world of duality if you want to undo this belief – just like you need to play a game to finish it. That is why this article is written within the context of duality. In such a world, psychological and physical issues do not mix. So if you conclude your worries are caused by something physical or what you feel in your body is caused by your anxiety, you deceive yourself.

Maybe you interpret your physical pain in the foot as fatal and imagine it is linked to a psychological issue from the past. Consequently, the psychological aspect appears to have caused the physical one.

Hereafter, the physical and psychological issues seem to impact each other significantly the more your imagination runs wild on a loop set off by envisioning ‘what if…?’ However, since your reaction to your thought-up outcome is revealed as two-fold when perceived as ‘it is what it is, there is no specific reaction to confirm your alleged cause-and-effect between non-physical and physical issues. Hence it is no more and never was except in fantasy. Read more about cause and effect here.

In Duality Hack #7 Physical & non-physical issues do not mix, you can read more about the unfortunate belief that physical and non-physical issues blend.

Therefore, the physical problem can be dealt with materially and the psychological one immaterially. Naturally, this is much easier and less scary than when fantasising about a connection between physical and psychological issues – just like daily life feels less dangerous when not mixing it with fantasies.

You cannot change physical reality. But if you perceive it so it makes you suffer, you can change your perception to one that makes you feel good.

You probably will be diagnosed with vertigo* if you experience the world spinning around you. However, that does not mean the doctor believes your experience is real. On the contrary, it is a hallucination because the world cannot revolve around you. Nevertheless, please do not deny it is your experience but that it is real. When you do that, the fear goes away. Hence you realise the whirling sensation is only going on inside you. Outside you, the world goes on as usual. Therefore, like you constantly correct seeing the earth as flat, you correct the experience of the world spinning around you. Eventually, you realise that all experiences need correction. None of them is real because it takes more than one to be aware of something, and there is no more than that which is One since it is formless, thus endless. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.

Having vertigo* is a glaring example of believing that the experience of something beyond the bounds of possibility is authentic. The world does not spin around you. Instead, it is an inner vision where everything rotates to suppress your horrifying interpretation of something. But since the whirling sensation disturbs the image of yourself, you disassociate yourself from it by projecting it onto the outside world.

That is until you stand by your horrifying interpretation, so it can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.That makes a crack in horror. And out of it comes something which initially feels pretty abstract. But as soon as it has been defined by horror, it settles as fearless to redefine horror. In this interplay, the opposing feelings are not independent but interdependent. Therefore, since you cannot feel afraid without feeling fearless and vice versa, you do not need to avoid the experience you initially interpreted as absolute horror.

Another way of explaining what the perception ‘it is what it is’ does is that when your single-minded response of sadness is perceived like that, it is as if there is an airball of misery somewhere undefinable. If you do not attempt to explain this vacuum, it feels like it balloons outward in a swelling bubble of gladness. But if you hold onto gladness to escape sadness, you feel alone because gladness is a singular feeling.

On the other hand, going with the interaction of gladness and sadness, you feel at home in their togetherness. To conclude, when not having a singular but a twofold response, you do not feel alone but together in the duality flow. Read more about the experience of the duality flow here.

Should this procedure seems too complicated, and you forget what to perceive as ‘it is what it is,’ you perceive your reaction to the confusion as ‘it is what it is.’ And since your response is revealed not to be singular but twofold, you are in the duality flow, thus feeling fulfilled by a world of duality.**

Always perceiving your response to something as ‘it s what it is,’ you do not have to control your reaction to something to avoid feeling wrong because it is complemented by feeling right. However, that does not mean right and wrong are balanced. Dualism is not about balance because that cancels out contrasts, thus duality (read more about that here). Instead, dualism is about the dynamic interaction between opposites, for example, breathing in and out. Photo © Alexius Jørgensen.

If your vertigo is not too intense, you could approach it practically by doubting your experience and requesting the brain to correct it so the world does not seem to move around you.

But if your vertigo is caused by a physical problem, such as tiny crystals of calcium that have gotten loose in the inner ear, you deal with it materially. Maybe you consult a healthcare professional or do the Epley exercise. But if your reason for doing that is to get it over and done with, you are most likely fixated on returning to things as they were.

It is impossible to experience something because it takes more than one to do so, and there is no more than that which is One. But since you are reading this, you believe it is possible to be and have more than one. Hence you must feel what and where you believe in being, to undo this belief.

Thus you do not feel fine regardless of the outcome like you do when you perceive your reasoning as ‘it is what it is.’ As aforementioned, this perception replaces a singular argument with a dualistic one. Which one that could be, you must explore yourself because this article is about to finish.

If this seems abrupt, and your reaction is astonishment, please perceive it as ‘it is what it is,’ to feel the interaction of astonishment and calmness. Therefore, since you are in the duality flow, you move on to other duality pairs, such as abrupt/gradual, beginning/end, or expectation/surprise. If you do not stop the duality flow by avoiding or enhancing one of the parts in a duality pair, you, eventually, are blown away by the interaction of opposites. Thus nobody walks a path without distance or direction to that which is everywhere since it is formless, thus endless, namely non-duality.

To be continued in Alexius’ childhood.

*) The article Psycho-Physiological Dizziness Syndrome describes vertigo as a psychological problem more detailed than here but not aligned with the foundation of Alexius’ Duality Hacks.

**) Alexius does not write about something he has not encountered himself. So he knows the perception ‘it is what it is’ works in the way he put forth. In his case, though, he does not only use the fulfilment that comes from the duality flow to deal with the world of duality in a relaxed way but as a stepping stone to glimpses of the Enlightenment of that which is One. Thus he goes to sleep bathed in light and wakes up in the morning hearing ethereal harmonies. Read more about that here

NOTE: This article is part of Duality Hack #8 The duality flow goes to non-duality.