4.4 Sadness is a close friend of gladness

Updated January 21, 2023

When feeling sad is perceived as ‘it is what it is,’ it is revealed to be paired with gladness. This revelation sets off the experience of other duality pairs, such as weakness and wellness, disappointment and contentment or tears and laughter. Going with the interaction of the opposing elements in a duality pair, you enter the duality flow. Thus you eventually feel so blown out that no one can ask for more. Consequently, there is no need for duality. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Suppose you do not acknowledge the negativity you have in your psychological sphere but project it onto others. In that case, you also disconnect yourself from your positivity because you do not have negativity to define it. The same applies if you hide your negative thoughts and feelings from your awareness by projecting them onto vulnerable parts of your body. In short, when you do not ratify your negativity, the experience of being positive is fake. Read here about how you quickly bring back what you have projected onto others.

To formulate genuine positivity in yourself, you must restore the negativity you have cut off from your awareness. You do that by acknowledging that when you see something judged as bad is your own negativity you see because what you receive is what you have – like the sun’s colouration of your skin is determined by the pigmentation inside you. However, that does not mean there is a beggar in your psychological sphere if you see someone begging on the street. But you have negativity in your psychological zone if you judge what you see negatively.

Read more about the psychological zone in The psychological zone is anywhere, but in something solid.

In that case, like a quick look from above is sufficient to ratify if there is water in a well, a glance in your psychological sphere is enough to feel your negative response to the beggar, so your negativity can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ That reveals positivity inside negativity. Like two sides of a coin, they define each other, so you cannot feel positivity without negativity and vice versa. Read more about that here. Since the experience of this duality pair, or any other, makes you feel complete, the belief in duality can be undone completely.

In hack #4.2 The brain’s script and how to perceive it to feel happy, you can read about how the perception ´it is what it is´reveals that your singular opinion of something is twofold. Hence you do not get the loneliness of singularity but the togetherness of duality.

Any experience perceived as positive is bound to be complemented by another one deemed negative because everything comes in pairs of opposing experiences in a world of duality. A foreground, for example, is paired with a background so they can define each other. Read more about the contrasts of duality here. For example, negative thinking confirms positivity. Hate verifies love, sadness substantiates gladness, and so on. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

That was the short version. The longer one is that when you begin acknowledging your negativity, its interplay with positivity in the psychological zone may not get your attention immediately. Instead, you probably feel like going to hell because you are overwhelmed by forgotten and unpleasant emotions that keep coming out of the dark. Read more about that here. Perhaps this starts slowly with a familiar sense of depression that you a long time ago hid from your awareness by imagining dumping it behind the pain in a vulnerable part of the body. See also hack #4.3 The fake mix of physical and non-physical issues.

But since depression often is repressed anger, sooner or later, it flares out in brutal hellfire. Maybe it feels as if acid-like splashes come out of the body part where you initially imagined hiding your anger. Or perhaps it feels like a ruthless and evil force tortures you.

When something in your psychological zone, interpreted specifically as evil, is perceived as ´it is what it is,´ you feel it contains goodness. Likewise, there is success in failure and an angel in a monster. However, none of these opposing elements are important in themselves. It is the interaction of them that makes you feel at home, whereas standing explicitly by on one of them you feel lost.

Not avoiding but acknowledging the feeling of hell, this single-minded interpretation can be perceived as ‘it is what it is. That reveals hell is twofold because it contains heaven. Amazed by this polarity, you realise there is no heaven without hell in a world of duality – just like there is no breathing in without breathing out. You cannot have one without the other.

In other words, the acknowledgement of hell does not make it go away but exposes heaven is inside it, and they interact to define each other. However, it does not happen in a balanced or harmonious way but in an adventurous manner in which you experience rapidly going up and down between the pleasure of heaven and the displeasure of hell – like having fun going up and down on a roller coaster or playing yoyo. You can also compare it to the ocean waves: sometimes they are big and fast, but at other times they are small and slow or hardly there.

Since duality is about twofoldness, and you believe to be in a world of duality, going with the interaction of hell and heaven makes you feel complete. And since this automatically leads to the experience of other duality pairs, the feeling of completeness eventually becomes so intense that you forget to define yourself as someone. Consequently, you not appear to hide non-duality. However, the process leading up to this may seem more comfortable if the problematic area in the body, where you once attempted to conceal a singular feeling, is fixed.

If you acknowledge every emotion that pops up in your psychological zone, there are no psychological feelings to project onhe body. Consequently, there is nothing mysterious hidden to fear in the body.

In a world of duality, everything comes in pairs. So if you do not try to split them to hold onto a singular perspective of love, for example, you are aligned with duality. That does not mean things work better for you, but it does not bother you because you feel complete in the duality flow. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.


In a world of duality, there is nothing better than the duality flow. But since most want to be in control and via single-minded postulates, they avoid the duality flow by unquestionably being in-the-know. Although this gives you a sense of superiority, the overall feeling is despair because you never seem to get it right. That is, until you stop upholding your singular opinions as facts but go with the duality flow. By doing that, any point of view is exposed twofold. Thus you feel nonsectarian, which is necessary to feel completed by the constant interaction of opposites in a world of duality. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When dualism is accepted, you enjoy the interaction of love and hate. Therefore, since you do not hide hatred in the body, you have no need to invent special tensions that block the communication between the body and the brain. And since it has the blueprint of the body’s composition, the brain can restore the body by its anatomy with the help of nature and health care professionals.In other words, the brain, not you, is meant to handle the body. Still, you call a healthcare professional if it needs help. But it does not need your help connecting with nature. The brain is already hooked up to the cosmos. That is why you do not fall off the planet, for example. When mental ideas do not disrupt this linkage with the universe, you feel entirely connected.

That does not mean you must abandon your wellness ideas to feel connected with nature but that you perceive your interpretation of wellness as ‘it is what it is.’ That reveals your reasoning is not singular but dual. Therefore, since you are in a world of duality, you are aligned with its nature. Being that, you do not wonder about the future because you are in the duality flow. Read more about that here. Hence your next step comes effortlessly – like breathing out follows breathing in. Be aware that the duality flow is not physical, thus not something in the body but in the psychological sphere.

Here you can read more about the obstruction of the natural relationship between the brain and the body and how to restore the connection.

You get a preview of non-duality by taking a break from duality. It feels like walking on clouds, even though you may be walking along a busy street. But since it calls for more than one to feel something, the preview of non-duality is a simulation. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Should the descent into hell* seem so distressing that you overlook its counterpart, heaven, a break from duality may be the way to go. That does not happen by pacifying yourself via meditation, praying or sedative music but by not withholding your anxiety, so its full speed ignites a take-off into the empty breath (read more about that in hack #5.1 Uncontrolled speed leads to a state of not-knowing).

The empty breath immediately brings you into a state of not-knowing. Here experiences go on as usual. But since there is nobody to respond to them, there are no reactions to establish them to differ from each other. Therefore, since you are in the brain’s game but not of it, the brain has lost you, wherefore after 20 minutes, 45 at most, because it feels so abandoned that it falls into a coma. So if you do not want to permanently undo the belief in duality, you should not remain in a state of not knowing for too long at a time. Read more about that here

Fortunately, not much time is needed in a state of not-knowing to have the slate wiped clean (read more about that here), so you return to a world of duality as the basic self (read more about that here). Since it perceives the response to an experience as ‘it is what it is,’ the reaction is not sensed as singular but twofold. Therefore, as you probably already have figured out, descending to hell is complemented by ascending to heaven.

That is not to say that non-duality is a fusion of heaven and hell or the union of all contrasts. On the contrary, non-duality is neither something nor nothing, because it takes more than one to be anything. Yet it is everything because non-duality is formless, thus endless.

However, the topic of hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality is not non-duality but living per duality. You need to be fully anchored in the belief that you are someone in a world of duality if you want to undo that belief – just like you need to play a game to finish it. Hence we continue in the context of duality in the following article, ‘What if…?’ versus ‘it is what it is’.

*) You may find the book Descent to the Goddess interesting regarding the descent to hell, even though it is not in line with Alexius’ Enlightened Non-Teachings and is supposedly only for women.

NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.


A state of not-knowing does not provide you with the fulfilment of duality but the bliss of nothing. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

This also applies to undoing the belief in duality. It ends by itself when your interpretations of your experiences are perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ That, as already said, aligns you with the world of duality, and since everything has a beginning and end in such a world, your dualistic interpretation is the beginning of the end.