When everything is perceived as ‘it is what it is,’ you are relieved

Updated September 29, 2022

The special self is to be compared to a con man. The more it can deceive others into believing it has something they do not have, the better it feels about itself. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

In most cases, you do not have to read Alexius’ Duality Hacks in a particular order. But in the case of this article, you may benefit from having read hack #4.1 The basic self versus the special one.

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The basic self never tries to look professional, so if it appears so, it is how the brain’s script is compounded. But the special self always tries to look perfect because it does not believe it is carried by the brain’s script but the rules of society, which are made to suppress natural instincts, favouring a spotless appearance.

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The special self always fears missing events it perceives to be important because it wants to be part of something special. On the other hand, the basic self sees itself as hooked up with the brain, and since it is the maker of all experiences, the basic self is part of everything that can be experienced. Thus it has nothing to miss.

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The approach of the basic self can be compared to buying an album from an artist and listening to all of it, whereas the special self prefers to stream the album so it can exclude the tracks that do not enhance its special image.

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A participant in a game like Monopoly has the same goal as the special self: to take everything from everybody. But that is not the goal of the basic self. It has no intention of being or having something that sets it apart from the whole.

It does not know the concept of individuality. Nor does it know that the special self thinks it is possible to do things in its way because, just like in Monopoly, everybody, regardless of the colour of their car, has to move by the dice.

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Like a self-driving car, the basic self follows the instruction it receives without favouring anybody in particular. Hence it automatically does what is in the best interest of everybody.

On the other hand, the special self always uses the signals coming from the brain to see how much it can get for as little as possible at anybody’s expense. Should somebody be hurt by this, it blames them and states that as a fact by saying, »Look what you made me do.«

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As the special self always waits for something better, it is stuck in a prison its expectations. On the other hand, the basic self hopes for nothing, so it feels free. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Just like a self-driving car follows the commands of The Cloud, the self, whether basic or special, serve the brain. But unlike a self-driving car, the self has a consciousness that can choose how to perceive itself. When this perception syncs with the brain’s script, the self automatically has an impersonal approach to everything. But when the perception is centred around its own being, as if it is more important than others, it is not in sync with the script because it favours nobody in particular.

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For the special self, everything is about itself, so when a relative has been injured in a traffic accident, the typical response is,»How could you do it to me.«

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Since our experience of the world, where we appear to be somebody, is fabricated by the brain (read more about that here), we feel connected when we follow the rules of the brain and unconnected when we try to change them.

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The special self continuously looks for more love, realisations, or whatever makes it appear to be and has more than others. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When you perceive to fail, your perception is out of sync with the brain’s script because, according to that, you are good enough as you are. The perception is also out of sync, if you believe it was due to solid willpower, you lost weight. The only reason you did so was that you were scripted to do it. But your interpretation of your new look is not out of sync with the brain’s script if perceived as ‘it is what it is’ because that reveals it is twofold, thus in sync with the brain’s script of duality.

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Because the special self has fabricated a story in which it is independent of the brain, it feels lost when not experiencing being connected with others. But no matter how many likes on Facebook it gets, it is never enough because its independence is based on the idea that there must be more.

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The special self continuously looks for more love, realisations, or whatever makes it appear to be and has more than others. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

According to the special self, there must be something bigger that will relieve it from its troubles because if not, everything seems hopeless. Yet hopelessness is what sets it free from the future and thus from the past, consequently from worries.

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Although neither the basic nor special self ever causes anything, the special self fools itself into believing it is in charge by, in retrospect, perceiving past events, so it seems to have caused them.

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It is always about returning to the way it was before for the special self. But not so for the basic self. It does not know how it was. Actually, neither does the special self. It is the story it has composed about the past that it wants to manifest in the present, so it seems everything always has been like it perceives it should be.

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»Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It is your masterpiece, after all.« This quote from the web shows a widespread misunderstanding, namely that life is yours. In reality, it is the other way around, so the more you try to edit life to appear unique, the more suffering your uniqueness seems to cause you.

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The special self wants to compare everything new with something old so that the present seems conditioned by the past, which it has edited to look like it was caused by itself.

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The special self splits up its perception of others per its concepts of right and wrong and then expects them to hide or correct what it has labelled as wrong, so it does not have to question itself.

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Since the concept of ‘letting go’ implies, the one doing it is in charge, and since the basic self is not in control of anything, it has nothing to let go of. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When the perception of every moment is that ‘it is what it is,’ there is no future to look forward to, thus no stress. That is why the basic self feels relaxed, and the special self seems tense because it never perceives the present moment like that. Actually, it does not perceive it all. Instead, it is busy making an exciting perception of the next moment founded on ‘I know what it is,’ so the future seems to be going its way, and the special self can look forward to something exceptional.

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Extraordinary experiences, such as glimpses of the Enlightenment of that which is One, seem to be at a premium for the special self. Yet, it seldom experiences anything but the ordinary because to prevent its special image from cracking, it fences off unfamiliar experiences.

If something uncontrollable, like glimpses of Enlightenment, should enter its controlled world, the special self ignores it, wait for it to be over, suppress its memories, and resume its life as it used to.

You can read about how to have glimpses of Enlightenment in The four aspects of Enlightenment and how to sample them.

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The special self looks for something it has never felt before. At least, this is what it claims, but as it constantly compares everything to the past, it will never feel something new.

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Many articles in the news point out that hardly any part of the earth is untouched by the damaging impacts of humanity. But there are very few pointing out that hardly any part of a human is untouched by the detrimental ways physicists, psychologists and new agers label every nook and cranny so that most feel compelled to adjust their perception of themselves to these rigid definitions instead of the natural flow of thoughts coming from the brain.

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The special self does not survive torture, but the basic self does. It has not added something special to itself, so there is nothing to take away. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Whether you have convinced yourself to indulge in or refrain from sex, the purpose is to enhance your image of being unique.

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The special self hates being told what to do. If it seems avoidable, it makes up a story in which it is detached from what happens, wherefore it is not taking orders but going with the flow.

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You do not feel stuck when perceiving your reaction to your experience as ‘it is what it is .’ Thus there is no urge to escape or transform anything.

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Perhaps you were so tired that you erased your hard disk by mistake. Though you cannot undo it, you can correct how you perceive your reaction to data loss. For example, if you feel sad about it, you perceive it as ‘it is what it is.’ That reveals sadness is complemented by happiness. And since they constantly interact, sadness does not get sticky. Thus you are free to start afresh.

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Everything comes in pairs in a world of duality. That is why you cannot feel the happiness of being the basic self without feeling sad as well. But as happiness and sadness are two sides of the same coin, the basic self knows that when it feels sad, happiness is included.

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Since nothing ever turns out as the special self expects, it never feels satisfied. On the other hand, the basic self expects nothing. Instead, it curiously looks forward to seeing what it gets. And whether that makes it satisfied or dissatisfied, the basic self feels entertained because it perceives its feelings as twofold. Thus satisfaction includes dissatisfaction and vice versa.

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Even though the ideas conceived by the special self always result in worries, the solution is not to stop them but to perceive your reaction to the anxiety as ‘it is what it is.’ This perception makes your response unimportant, wherefore there is nothing to worry about. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Nor the basic or the special self is in charge of anything. The latter, however, believes it can change that by making a perception of the past as if the special self, not the brain, was in charge. But no matter how you perceive the past, you have never been in charge. The brain runs the show, and, as parents look after their kids, it always protects you.

But unlike parents, the brain does not protect you from evil because you cannot feel good without evil. Goodness is defined by evil and vice versa – just like going down on a rollercoaster defines going up and vice versa. You need them both to be entertained. That is why everything in the brain’s script is twofold.

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The negative and the positive pole in an electrical wire are equally important. The same applies to negative and positive thinking. Therefore, trying to change the body into what you think it should be according to the concepts of positive thinking, something is missing. Hence the body feels stiff. On the other hand, if you accept its negativity as well as its positivity, the body feels flexible. Consequently, you feel appreciated by it.

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The special self always looks for mistakes in itself so it can correct them, thus appearing in control. But the basic self does not consider itself in charge of anything. It is a servant of everything because it is adjusted to the flow of thoughts from the brain, which does not care about personal preferences but what is best for the whole.

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If one has a personality of a faultfinder, the special self sees it as a mistake that needs to be corrected. Thus every new mistake it finds makes it disappointed, whereas the basic self gets happy because finding mistakes fulfils its function.

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The legs that seem to make you run in a dream are not yours because they rest in your bed. Likewise, what you appear to be in a world where there seems to be more than one is not that which is you. It rests with that which is One, and since it takes more than one to be somewhere, it is nowhere. Yet, it is also everywhere because oneness is formless, thus endless.

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Perceiving everything as ‘it is what it is,’ any experience feels good enough.


NOTE: The above article is part of hack #4.2 The brain’s script and how to perceive it to feel happy.