Notes on ‘the duality flow’ 2/2 [draft]

Updated October 4, 2022

Going with the duality flow, hate does not make you frown but smile :) Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

To feel important is a single-minded notion that has been separated from its counterpart. Hence it brings about loneliness. But in the duality flow, importance interacts with unimportance. Thus you get togetherness.

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Feeling good is not a matter of making the body relax but how you perceive your reaction to its condition. For example, if your response is irritation, you assume your body is its source. But you cannot improve anything in the body so as not to feel disturbed because the problem is in your perception. This does not mean you instantly feel relaxed if you perceive your reaction to the body’s condition as ‘it is what it is,’ but you see relaxation is coupled with unhappiness. Hence you feel relaxed if you stand by your irritation instead of blaming the body for it.

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Having followed the duality flow for some time, the specific state of mind you used to conjure up to feel at ease is forever out of reach. Now everything is seen as twofold. What this means, you do not know. Nor do you care because you feel complete by the constant interaction of opposites. Hence there is no need for a specific state of mind or perspective to escape feeling disturbed.

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In the duality flow, you feel complete, so although you may seem as clumsy as ever, it does not make you feel wrong.

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If you succeed in letting go of your hatred, you also get rid of the ability to feel love because everything comes in pairs of opposing elements that define each other. Hate defines love and vice versa, so you cannot have one without the other.

Therefore, to quickly get back the love you have discarded by projecting your hate onto others, you perceive ‘their’ hate as ‘it is what it is.’ This reveals it is coupled with love. And since you can only see what you have, you feel the togetherness of love and hate inside you. Read here about quickly bringing back your repressed emotions by seeing them in others.

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It is relaxing and energising, not to control your appearance but go with the duality flow – as you go with the flow of the waves when swimming. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Your response to something is not singular but twofold when you are in the duality flow. Therefore, since nothing is considered distinctly right or wrong, nothing is seen as problematic. But since most people are identified with their problems, they hang onto them by maintaining their conditioned views of right and wrong, although it makes them feel imprisoned. However, they can have their problems and still feel free if they do not judge them as precisely right or wrong but instead go with the interaction of right and wrong. For example, if you appear to be clumsy and do not judge that to be right or wrong, you have your problem, but it is not problematic.

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Being intuitive, you do not try to interfere with the brain. Thus you are in the duality flow.

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We usually do not think about how to digest the food we eat because it happens by itself. You do not even have to plan to prepare a meal when in the duality flow.* It may not occur in the systematised way you were used to but in the spontaneous way of nature. It does not plant seeds in rows to get the most in return but enthusiastically throws them everywhere to see what happens. Nor does it build something totalitarian, such as Bauhaus or construct a meal in a categorical style like Nordic. In other words, following the duality flow** is never definitive.

Therefore, although preparing dinner seems more unpredictable, you can count on having fun because your experience is in sync with the present moment. But if you repeat the same procedure another day, it will not feel like a comedy. Every day is a new surprise. That said, there may be a period of transition where you try to hold onto your old single-minded perceptions of how to cook. When it does not work, thus triggering old feelings of despair, you are about to cry.

The solution is not to stop the discomfort but to stand by it, so the definitive meaning you have decided it has can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ This reveals your opinion is not singular but twofold. And since you are in a world of duality, it makes you feel complete. Eventually, so much that you realise you are nothing but appearance. Hence there does not seem to be someone to hide that non-duality is all there is and always was.

That said, you neither have to plan your dinner yourself when not in the duality flow because the brain is always in charge. Suppose the making of the dinner seemed to go according to your plan. In that case, it is because you, in retrospect, interpreted it, so it turned out as hoped for – like you shape a chaotic dream with words such as patterns, displacement activity, unity, synchronicity and karma. Thus it seems consistent with your point of view. However, editing your experiences is exhausting and makes you feel incomplete. But going with them as they are is effortless, you feel complete because you gry the interaction of opposites, thus the duality flow.

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The opposing elements in the duality pairs you encounter are equally valued in the duality flow. Thus it is probably the closest you get to being singular in a world of duality. This might be why the more you are in the duality flow, the more you forget to believe there is more than one. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

At first, it may seem confusing to be in the duality flow. It is like having vertigo. But, fortunately, without the visions of the world spinning around you. Inside you, there is constant movement between opposites. Thus nothing definitive you can use to navigate your way in the world. No worries. There never was. It was just something you made up to feel in control. Now you know that was a lie. Hence you are free to go with the duality flow.

But getting to this point may be difficult for those who consider themselves spiritual. They often hide their feelings in an attempt to appear detached. But if you do not feel your emotions, they cannot be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ Hence they remain as specific feelings in the dark, and you go on in the benumbed state that

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In the constant interaction of opposites, making up the duality flow, it is equally entertaining to be somebody as nobody.

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Alexius’ Duality Hacks logically concludes that since it takes more than one to have a shape, oneness is formless, thus endless. Consequently, there is no more than that which is One. But since it takes more than one to read this, you believe it is possible to be and have more than one.

No worries, continuing as if you are someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, you honour your choice to believe it is possible to be and have more than one. Hence you are in a position to undo it. If you do that by bidding welcome the enlightenment of that which is One, the undoing does not occur gradually but straight away without warning (see hack #6.1 The Enlightenment of that which is One).

But since the temporal length of an event is an illusion, you may take your time and begin following the duality flow so you can enjoy appearing to be and have more than one until this experience, like anything else that has a beginning, ends without any effort of yours.

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In most cases, therapy replaces one specific attitude with another, thus working against the duality flow.

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By suppressing the feelings you dislike, you conceal those you like because everything comes in pairs in a world of duality. Therefore, since you always feel oppressed, the present moment seems blurry. You try to compensate for this by preparing yourself to be present in the next moment. But it never goes as planned. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If you perceive your reaction to everything as ‘it is what it is,’ there is no need to fence off seeing yourself as a monster by accusing others of evil because this perception uncovers the beast in you contains an angel. Besides, the interaction of these opposites, and all others, reveals the duality flow. Being in that, you feel complete, so you do not need to denigrate others to feel better about yourself.

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If you have chosen that falling makes you feel angry, and if that is perceived as ‘it is what it is,’ it is revealed to be paired with feeling peaceful. However, those labels are unimportant. What matters is the constant interaction between them. This is the duality flow. Following it, you feel whole. That is why you cannot help but laugh.

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Being unselfish is like playing a game. You are not there. It is something you imagine. Thus every action is selfless. However, most do not want to be nobody in the game of duality. On the contrary, they crave to make a difference to shape the game through particular ideas of spirituality. In other words, they insist on living their unique way, although they do not know who they are.

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You feel frustrated until you stop looking for a specific appearance to make you feel better and go with the constant interaction of opposing elements. You neither stop nor start in this interplay. And you do not remain with a particular pair of opposites but in the movement between opposing elements. That is the duality flow. When you begin to follow it, sooner or later, duality is bound to stop because every beginning has an end in a world of duality.

Just before you pick up the duality flow in a new pair of opposing elements, there is a moment of nothing and, therefore, not something that seems to hide non-duality. At this moment, you might hear the sound that seemed to set off the world of duality. It is often symbolised by Aum or Sohang and, in Western religion, The Word of God. Read here how to hear it.

However, this vibration is not non-duality because it takes more than one to hear something. But when no one hears anything specific, the sound of this vibration wipes out duality.

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There is no truth to extract from Alexius’ Enlightened Non-Teachings. They are a part of a world where there seems to be more than one, and such a world is non-existing because there is no more than that which is One since it is formless, thus endless. Hence, the basic and special self’s differentiation and perceptions are nonsense.

Nevertheless, this craziness can be beneficial in exposing the absurdity of believing to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one. Read more about that in hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.


*) This is not to say that you never need to think ahead to get something done. But thoughts for that come automatically when you are in the duality flow.

**) Actually, preparing something is not more unpredictable when following the duality flow. It only seems so because when not in the duality flow, you cut off everything from your awareness that does not confirm you are in control.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.