You undo the belief in duality by enjoying it

Updated January 21, 2023

Anything perceived as good is just as bad because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality. That is why you do not get the duality flow if you try to hold onto being hurt, for example, to prove you are a victim of somebody. Instead, you go with the interplay of feeling hurt and healthy, so they define each other, thus not distinct but airy feelings in the duality flow. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

In most cases, you do not have to read Alexius’ Duality Hacks in a particular order. But in the case of this article, you may benefit reading hack #4.3 The fake mix of physical and non-physical issues.

You need to be true to the nature of dualism to undo the belief that you are someone in a world of duality because you departed non-duality by envisioning there is more than one, so you return more than one. Therefore, if you insist on singularity, you remain in a simulated world of duality.

Being in the duality flow, you never feel something specific but the interaction of the opposing part in the duality pairs. But to get into the flow, you start by acknowledging your singular response to an experience so that it can be perceived as ‘it is what it is,’ which reveals your response contains its counterpart.

For example, inside love, there is hate. That is because they need each other to be defined, and they do that by constantly interacting. Any minute though, hatred may show that it can also be defined by kindness. Then this twofoldness replaces the former until kindness reveals it can also complement selfishness. And so it goes until you want to make a difference by doing things in your specific way, thus not being in the duality flow anymore because it is twofold, not specific.

Believing you can do things in your way, although you do not know who you are, continues until you are fed up with the hectic stream of thoughts required to hide you are nothing but a puppet of the brain made to enjoy its experiences of duality. Then, accepting that, you are back in the duality flow.

If you suffer because somebody has died, you stand by the discomfort so it can be perceived as ‘it is what it is.’ Since that reveals your feeling is not singular but twofold, you do not feel alone but together.

This is a picture of Alexius’ beloved cat Uma, who died at only eight months old and left Alexius crying for a long time. Fortunately, weeping is coupled with happiness, so crying made him remember all the happy times they had together and still have in the airy psychological sphere where they constantly meet. That does not mean he does not wish to see her physically. He misses her physical presence. But then again, that feeling is in the psychological sphere, where she is, so he meets her again there. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The first time Alexius experienced the duality flow was during a gentle but very physical massage many years ago. But it was not until much later he put words to it and realised perceiving his present feeling in the psychological sphere as ‘it is what it is’ reveals it is not singular but twofold. Thus being in sync with duality, he feels complete.

Later, it happened when Alexius’ cat died. Since he could feel the loss in his body, he knew something was wrong. A dead cat does not have the power to create sensations in his body. Therefore, as it could only be something he unconsciously had projected onto his body, he consciously brought it back into the psychological sphere, where the feeling of loss was revealed to be coupled with birth.

So although he had lost his cat, physically speaking, in the psychological zone, the loss was revealed to interact with birth. So Uma kept coming back to Alexius. Therefore, since Alexius got into the interaction of life and death in the psychological area, he felt happy/sad with his cat.

In other words, the death of his beloved cat turned out to be a blessing because it made it impossible for him to project psychological issues on her physical being. Hence, Alexius’ relationship with Uma got back into the psychological sphere, where it had been all the time and will remain until the experience of duality is over. This is not about beating off the body. On the contrary, it frees the body from mental ideas about integrating it with non-physical issues. Thus the body blossoms physically. Read more about Uma and Alexius here.

So if you want to feel good in a world of duality, do not use the body as a means to feel that. Happiness is in the psychological sphere, in an ongoing interaction with sadness. When you join their interplay, the duality flow vitalises you and your relationships in the psychological sphere.

Even though Alexius’ cat Uma is dead, Alexius connects with her in the airy psychological sphere. Although he cannot see Uma there physically, he can feel what he experienced they had together. It is like listening to the ocean’s waves without seeing them. However, at first, it was not what Alexius assumed they had together he got in touch with, but the sorrow of missing her. Fortunately, that was only until he realised his mourning for Uma contained her. The moment she died in his arms and any other moment with her remained in the psychological zone. Thus Uma is as close as she always was and will be. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Having the counterpart of a singular feeling revealed is not an intellectual process. First, you perceive the specific feeling as ‘it is what it is.’ Second, in a state of expectation, calling for nothing specific, you patiently wait, maybe a minute. Third, your singular feeling opens up, and its counterpart fills its space.

The transition is so gentle that you forget the initial feeling. But unlike that, the new one does not seem singular because it is defined by the first one, which the new one then defines. This interchange is as automatic as breathing in and out. One automatically leads to the other. That is why you may forget the elements in a duality pair. However, you do not forget how well-grounded and beloved you feel in the interplay of opposites.

When you start perceiving your reaction to something as ‘it is what it is’, it is probably the revelation that it is not singular but twofold, which blows your conditioned opinions away. But later on, the collaboration of opposites, resulting in the duality flow, overflowing every definitive statement.Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

At first, you may get to the duality flow from the perception, ‘it is what it is,’ but after a while, you can recall it by memory. You choose to enjoy the interaction of the opposing element in a duality pair instead of dividing them into distinct components assumed at odds. In short, you decide to feel the abundance of the duality flow, not the scarcity of singularity.

However, it took Alexius some time to not engage in the opposite sides of a duality pair as distinct elements but instead go with their interaction in which, like breathing in and out, they support each other. Unlike the breath, most duality pairs are quickly replaced by another. But it does not matter because the duality flow comes from the constant movement between opposites in a duality pair regardless of the components. This interaction always makes you feel complete. Occasionally it may take a long time, for example, regarding a duality pair like night and day.

The duality flow reminds Alexius of the sensation he remembers from childhood when he tried drinking coca-cola. He forgot his body and was nothing but bubbles in the psychological sphere. His experience of the duality flow can also be described as being emptied by an ocean of waves gracefully going nowhere. Sometimes it feels like a pendulum moves in different directions in the psychological sphere. Though feelings are personal, your experience of the duality flow may differ from Alexius.’ Nevertheless, you know you are in the duality flow when you keep smiling for no reason.

First, you imagine to dump your unwanted feelings in the body. Second, you perceive the body as tight so it seems to hide the feelings you imagined to stored in it. Third, you interpret the tightened body as proof of having concealed your unwanted feelings there. Fourth, you forget all about it.

Listening to the ocean’s waves is a bit like being in the duality flow. You feel vitalised. However, if you insist on doing things your way, you soon feel restless because many things need to be adjusted to make it look like everything is going your way. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

None of the opposing elements in the duality flow remains for long. You can compare this to a seesaw on a playground, where one person goes up as the other goes down. If you try holding onto the top by avoiding going down, the feeling you get is fake because you need to go back and forth to define what is up and down – just like there is nothing to describe breathing in if you do not breathe out.

Twofoldness is always the way in a world of duality. For example, walking requires two legs. And to take a step forward, you must include the past because it is the building stone for your future step. So if you exclude one of the legs, you cannot walk.

Likewise, you do not hit the road of duality if you exclude hate from love, for example. Hence you do not get the togetherness of twofoldness but the loneliness of singleness. The latter may feel like a non-concrete pain in the body, even though it does not come from there but from the psychological sphere. There you hold yourself spellbound by the idea that twofoldness can be separated into independent items and hate, therefore, can be separated from love.

You achieve this separation by projecting your hatred onto a part of the body you dislike. Then you lure yourself into believing you have gotten rid of hate by feeling it as a physical problem in the body. Finally, you render yourself unconscious of what you have done to see yourself as pure love. But emotions are abstract, and bodies are substantial l, so assuming you can dump feelings in flesh and bones is absurd. In other words, since you cannot remove hatred from your awareness by leaving it in your body, what you assume to upset the body is not there but in the psychological sphere.

Since the psychological area is abstract, you contact a repressed psychological emotion anywhere other than in something material. However, no need to go down memory lane to find it or understand why you attempted to hide it in the body. Instead, you perceive the disgust you repeatedly have toward something in the present as ‘it is what it is.’ Thus, as you probably already have guessed from reading the above, aversion is revealed to interact with sympathy to define each other as your personal feelings.

Realising that all feelings are personal, everything happening is understood as impersonal. Therefore, suppressing specific feelings to hold onto a self-made version of the world defined by your views of right and wrong is over. Instead, you go with the duality flow.

Read more about the psychological sphere in The psychological zone is anywhere but in something solid.

You become likeable when you do not hide what you do not like in yourself from your awareness by projecting it onto the body. That is the first step in healing a psychosomatic disorder. See hack #4.3 The fake mix of physical and non-physical issues. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Those who assume they suffer from a psychosomatic disorder have projected politically incorrect feelings like sexual lust, power strivings, greed, envy and anger onto vulnerable parts of the body, in the same way, some project offensive feelings onto the world.

However, since these emotions are abstract, they cannot be hidden in something tangible. Hence the projection of abstract feelings onto something substantial only conceals them from your awareness. Nonetheless, most believe their problems are gone when out of sight. Just like an ostrich, according to myth, believes danger disappears when it buries its head in the sand.

Many of those believing negativity should be avoided like to use crystal stones for healing. But lots of these stones, Amethyst for example, heals by emitting negative ions producing biochemical reactions which create positive vibes/mood and relieve stress.

This myth, though, is not valid. If an ostrich buries its head in the sand, it dies from a lack of air. And you wither from the lack of collaboration between positivity and negativity if you hide the latter from yourself with a head-in-the-sand approach. Consequently, you cannot have the belief in duality undone before your negativity is acknowledged as paired with positivity, thus twofold.

When you expose your negativity, as described in The YOU finger and the three ME fingers, you feel so vitalised by the duality flow that it eventually blows you away. Hence you do not appear to hide non-duality.

NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.