When included, annoyance undoes the belief in separation [draft]

Updated May 10, 2022

If your irritation is not excluded but included in the perception of yourself, the belief in separation falls apart. But unfortunately, the intimacy that this entails often seems so scary that most prefer to uphold the belief in separation by blaming the world for feeling annoyed. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You cannot avoid irritation when you believe to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one because to uphold this belief, you must always choose between opposites like good and bad. Since this is a confirmation of separation and that which is you is no different from that which is one, it makes you feel disconnected.

When included, annoyance undoes the belief in separation

Irritation is enhanced every time it is justified because blaming somebody or something else for how you feel is only possible when you believe there is more than that which is one, which is the cause of irritation.

To hide this is your own doing, you blame somebody else for having caused it. But as making others bad to make you look good further enhance the belief in separation., you feel more disconnected.

Nevertheless, you keep on hoping that this underlying feeling of discomfort goes away when what you judge as wrong has been made right. Thus you compulsively look for something to make better. But as that boosts the belief in separation, it makes you feel more cut off.

Feelings of frustrations can be compared with a traffic sign saying, you are going the wrong way. This is not to say, that feeling them is wrong. On the contrary. It is justifying them, that is going the wrong way, because by doing that they are excluded instead of included. If included to the extent that you are nothing but what you feel, you are set free, because a feeling cannot survive on its own. It has to be contrasted in order to be felt as something specific, so when there is nothing else than that, you are set free from duality. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

Justifying feelings lead the wrong way because that excludes them from you and thus establish separation as real. But if a feeling is included to the extent that you are only that, there is nothing else to define what you are. Therefore, since you cannot be seen as someone who makes a difference, there is no feeling of disconnection – just like the white letters in the above sign only seem disconnected from each other when contrasted by another colour. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

No worries. This feeling is simply a warning sign saying you cannot go down this road because it takes more than one to feel something, and you are that which is one. Therefore, if you do not fend off your feeling of irritation but bid it welcome, it disappears because the warning has been received.

This does not necessarily mean your appearance as someone in a world where there seems to be more than one is over, but that the belief in being there is replaced by pretending to be there. And since what you pretend to be, you are not, someday nobody returns that which has never been left, namely that which is one.

Inclusiveness is not about owning your flaws since that confirms the belief in being someone definitive. Nor is it the same as accepting the dark side of the personality because it is to accept exclusion and thus the loneliness of separation. Instead, inclusion leaves nothing to put up with, which is pure bliss.

Including uncomfortable feelings in this way may seem similar to the Jungian idea of integrating the shadow side of the personality. But inclusiveness, as described in Alexius’ Duality Hacks, is not about becoming whole or anything else because being something requires more than one.

However, while you believe to be that, you do not have to hesitate to ask your neighbours to be quiet if they seem disturbing. So, by all means, go ahead and blame them for making you feel upset. And be grateful they have made you aware of how irritating it is to judge them and thus separate them from you.

Your gratefulness will set you free to move forward without excluding your uncomfortable feelings by blaming others for having caused them. Instead, you include your feelings by totally being them. Since that leaves nothing to define you, the belief in separation cannot be upheld. For example, when you are nothing but irritated, there is not something to contrast what you are. Hence you cannot be defined as someone specific.

It is not only the inclusion of irritation, which sets you free from the belief in separation. This applies to any feeling, whether so-called positive or negative, rooted in the past or whatnot. If you go all the way and fully experience a feeling, you will be completely full of it. Hence there is nothing to contrast it, which means it cannot be experienced and therefore return to the nothingness from where it came. Consequently, there is nothing to uphold the belief in separation. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

What is said above about uncomfortable feelings also applies to comfortable feelings justified by somebody. When you, for example, assume a feeling of love is caused by your spouse, it has been excluded and not included, so separation is experienced as real and oneness as false.

To make long short, if you want to have the belief in separation undone, it makes no difference what you seem to feel while believing to be someone definitive. That is if you do not exclude what you feel by justifying it to the world but include them undiminished and unedited, which is done by being nothing but what you feel.

As it takes more than one to include something, and there is no more than that which is one, since it is formless and therefore endless, inclusiveness is just as illusionary as exclusiveness. But contrary to exclusiveness, which enhances the belief in separation, inclusiveness undoes it. However, this does not mean that Alexius’ Duality Hacks transform you into the formlessness of oneness. That is not possible because whatever you believe in being is nothing but empty space.

So instead, Alexius’ Duality Hacks replace the belief in being someone definitive with the belief that you are a symbol of oneness (hack #1.3 Pretending to be someone definitive is liberation), or with the belief that what you appear to be is pretence. Since what you pretend to be, you are not, you are not separated (hack #2.1 Everything experienced is a symbol of life). Or instead of believing that different experiences make a difference, you believe they make no difference, wherefore there is no separation. This new belief you achieve by being inclusive(the hack you are reading).

Without contrasts a world where there seems to be more than one cannot be experienced. So when both sides of contrast, for example light and darkness, are included, there is nothing to experience and thus nothing to hide that which cannot be experienced, namely that which is one. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Most believe that they will feel good when something has been made right. However, the problem is not good versus bad, but that you feel disconnected when choosing between more than one because that which is you is no different from that which is one, and it requires more than one to choose.

Though the beliefs accumulated by Alexius’ Duality Hacks are just as illusionary as any other, they undo them all – including those about transformation, soul, divine consciousness, awakening and whatnot. Hence there is no belief to hide that which cannot be realised, namely that which is one. It is formless and therefore endless, so there is nothing else. Therefore, since you are already there, you do not need to realise oneness but what you use to hide it.

When you include the bad feelings by being nothing but bad, there is nothing good to contrast them, and without that, the contrast of good and bad is no more. In other words, nothing is bad or good. Everything is as it is. That is a state of not-knowing. See the following articles.

That is the way it goes with any other feeling you include. For example, being nothing but sad, there is nothing to contrast it. Thus neither sadness nor its contrast happiness appears to exist. As this nothingness momentarily rubs off on the other contrasts making up your personality, there is nobody left to judge the apparent differences of the world to make a difference. Hence you are in a state of not-knowing.

See the below articles regarding projections and justifications as a way to exclude something so that you can be defined as someone definitive by what you have been banned from yourself.

NOTE: This article is part of hack #3.2 Inclusiveness is freedom.