NT4 Inclusiveness cancels out the need to be someone definitive [draft]

Updated September 4, 2022

No matter how beautiful something is defined, it confirms separation, thus making you suffer. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Those defining themselves as vegetarians believe it is better not to eat meat. From this, we can derive that being someone definitive is not a fact but a belief based on excluding something specific.

However, this belief cannot be hacked by meditation because it is about denying specific parts of yourself. But, on the other hand, if you are all-inclusive, there is nothing to define what and where you are. Thus you are in a state of not-knowing, having the bliss of nothing.

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You are defined by what you exclude from your perception of yourself. That is the way to be somebody definitive. For example, if you exclude what you judge as wrong, you appear good. On the other hand, inclusion does not turn you into anything at all, thus setting you free from the belief in separation.

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Be happy each time you notice the same thoughts popping up again and again. It is probably thoughts you have excluded that beg to be included.

To include them is to be them, and to be them is to be confused and not know what is going on. In other words, not defining anything, everything is included, wherefore you enter a state of not-knowing where you, in the bliss of nothing, can have previews of non-duality.

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To exclude a feeling is not to be it, and to include it is to be it. Being it, you are not scared of it anymore.

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You do not include a feeling by understanding it but by being it. It is done by fully expressing it internally because it is within yourself you accuse somebody else of having caused what you feel. However, should you burst out in anger, do not stop but include it. The same applies if you feel embarrassed by your outburst.

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You exclude what you want to hide from your personality by projecting it onto others so that you can be defined as better than them. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

Every time you believe somebody is different from you, you exclude them, thus feeling alone. Yet, by not excluding, thus including, you feel alone together. See hack #7.1 Alone together, we go home.

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You must judge somebody as different from you to have compassion for them. Therefore, since compassion is an act of exclusion, it inflicts suffering.

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Sometimes the fastest way to include feelings is to breathe through them. But as this may entail pain, it does not seem the easiest way. That is until the pain is included.

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The main reason for being exclusive is that you will not appear mistaken. Being that must be avoided at any cost, so you are not reminded of your original mistake: to believe in separation.

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Being inclusive instead of exclusive is not complicated. You do not have to do anything but stop excluding. However, if you are unaware of continuously excluding incorrect feelings, you cannot stop excluding them.

But when you realise that excluding something to appear correct is never-ending, you are ready to stop denying the parts you perceive as wrong in yourself. Hence you are all-inclusive, thus not glorifying separation anymore.

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You do not become happy by excluding what makes you sad but by including it because inclusiveness is happiness.

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When two sides of a contrast – for example positivity and negativity – are neither judged good nor bad, their apparent difference is not perceived to make a difference. Hence a world where there seems to be more than one appears so bland that its lifelessness is exposed.

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You are vulnerable when perceived as definable but not being describable, you are untouchable. The way to not be perceived as definite is not to exclude anything, thus including everything, because that leaves nothing to define you. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

To be in balance seems to be the goal for many seekers. But as nothing can be experienced without its contrast, you cannot experience balance without imbalance. Hence you, as always, seem torn apart by opposites. That is until you do not favour one of them but include them both as you perceive them.

When included, they are not divided. Hence there is no separation to uphold the belief in being someone definitive. Thus you are neither in balance nor imbalance but the bliss of nothing.

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Since oneness is formless, a world where there seems to be more than one is a fantasy borne from the wish to be and have more than that which is One. The illusion unfolds by imagining it is possible to fragment oneness into opposites, such as good and bad, right and wrong, light and dark.

Therefore, if you consider yourself and like-minded the good ones and others the bad ones, you are enhancing the belief that oneness can be divided, thus making it appear as if life is separation and not oneness.

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The inclusion of contrasting feelings is not the same as containing them. When the opposing sides of a contrast are included, they cancel out each other. Hence there is no feeling to have. See Without contrasts, there is nothing but non-duality.

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To follow an idea is to separate because it takes more than one to pursue something. Therefore, all opinions, spiritual and mundane, must be ignored if you want to have the belief in separation undone. Of course, that is also an idea. However, it is not based on exclusion but on inclusion. Thus it undoes all ideas.

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You are defined as someone definitive by what you exclude. So if not excluding, you are nothing but pure bliss.

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Angry feelings often appear in sentences like »You are this and that …«. But if you change it into »I am this and that …«, it is much easier to include your anger. That is not meant to say you should stop blaming others. On the contrary, blaming them is the fastest way of exposing what you have banned in yourself. Read more about that here.

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It requires much effort to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one opportunity. However, none works out as expected, so you must keep looking for more. On the other hand, that which is one requires no effort, as there is no more than that possibility. Yet, it lasts forever because it is formless, thus endless. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

The only thing that feels worse than not getting what you want is getting it because the hunger for more is unresolved.

You can never be satisfied in a world where there seems to be more than one because the reason for being there is to be and have more. That is why it is impossible to stop looking for more. However, if you do not perceive the apparent differences to make a difference, nobody looks for more.

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Since more or less everybody is exhausted from constantly craving more, they look for more relaxation through mindfulness, yoga and whatnot to get more energy for chasing more love, more peace, more authenticity, more friends, more money, or more power. They especially need more control, so they can manipulate more people into helping them to get more.

As soon as they stop believing, it is possible to be or have more than that which is one, it does not appear hidden anymore.

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Oneness has a built-in safeguard mode. It starts simulating a world where there seems to be more than one if you believe to be separated from that which is one. Thus you do not have to feel lonesome while having this belief.

The simulation turns off the moment you stop believing it is possible to be and have more than that which is one.

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When a drug addict has finished rehab, the reward is not a new and better tripping experience but freedom from enslavement. Likewise, the prize of stopping your ongoing fix of duality is not a higher and more exciting experience but freedom from experiencing something, as non-duality is that which is one, and it takes more than one to be aware of anything.

You do not even know you once believed to be in a world of duality because there is no such thing. Neither do you know that you are in non-duality, as that requires more than one. No worries. You do not need to know anything because non-duality is everything since it is formless, thus endless.

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If the contrasts that seem to define you are dissolved, you are free from being defined as someone definitive. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen

No reason to change your name, clothes or anything else. Nor do you not have to think positive, become vegan or stop being it. Everything in a world where there seems to be more than one is equally illusionary. Fortunately, Alexius’ Duality Hacks can use any illusion to undo the belief that it is real.

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Since your experience of the present is shaped by the past, the inclusion of a present experience undoes the past as well, thus also the definition of you. So next time somebody reminds you of the past, there is nobody to be upset about that.

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No need to wonder if hidden feelings from the past have been left out when you include what you appear to be in the present moment because that is the sum of the past. You do not have to worry if everything in the present moment is fully included. Willingness to do so is all that is required.

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Meditation is not needed to stop thoughts when nobody has them.

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If the apparent difference in the person’s height is not perceived to make a difference, you are neither defined as small nor tall.

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The more the experienced differences are not perceived to make a difference, the less separation is confirmed. Therefore, since its outcome, suffering, does not need to be avoided, it is easy to appear as someone in a world where there seems to be more than one.

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Knowing there is no more than that which is one, you are not afraid because it takes more than one to feel something.

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Exclusiveness is the foundation of appearing to be someone definitive in a world of duality, as it favours one side of a contrast over the other, whereas inclusiveness cancels out the apparent difference in contrasts. Consequently you do not appear to be someone definitive but nobody and so the foundation for the belief in separation is gone. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The foundation of your appearance as someone definitive in a world where there seems to be more than one is exclusiveness. First, one side of a contrast is judged better than the other. Second, the bad side is excluded by projecting it onto somebody, so you appear good at the expense of others. Fortunately, inclusiveness undoes this. It cancels out the apparent difference between contrasting elements. Thus, eventually, you do not appear to differ from others, which means the foundation for the belief in separation fades out. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Appearing to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, you cannot always be happy. A feeling needs to be contrasted by its opposite to be experienced as something specific. For example, you would not know happiness if not for sadness.

The wish to have only one feeling comes from the memory of oneness. But it has been twisted because there are no feelings in oneness, as it takes more than one to feel something.

For the same reason, there are no contrasts in oneness. Yet, a world where there seems to be more than one cannot be experienced without them. In such a world, light requires darkness to be seen as something specific, peace needs war, positivity is coupled with negativity, and so on. Therefore, the more you include, the less there is to define your experiences as something specific. Eventually, there is nothing to experience, thus nothing to hide that which cannot be experienced, namely the formlessness of oneness.

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Including something upsetting will not transform it but stop it from upsetting you. You do not even know what is not upsetting you anymore. The memory of it is gone. So if you, for example, want to forget your ex, you include unedited memories of the relationship.

To include the memories of rejection is to be them. That means they cannot be contrasted and thus not defined. Consequently, you are not someone who has been rejected. From this follows that inclusion does not establish you as someone definitive but as nothing.

Therefore, you must keep excluding something if you want to be someone in the world because what you exclude is what defines you as someone definitive. But you cannot be exclusive without cherishing the belief in separation, which is the cause of loneliness. And since there is no loneliness in oneness, it seems hidden until you include being exclusive.

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Since the experience of a world defined by time and space is based on exclusion, the obvious way to undo it is to be inclusive. However, this is not done by avoiding being exclusive. That is not inclusive.

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The belief that it is possible to be and have more than that which is one is based on exclusion, so when exclusion is included, the belief is undone.

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Including everything does not mean you must include something you do not like, but that you include you dislike it.

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You are defined by what you judge yourself not to be. In other words, you do not want peace in the world because you need the bad guys to contrast the image you have made of yourself as one of the good ones doing the right thing.

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When there is no need to be validated as someone definitive, it does not matter if others seem to induce feelings of sadness or happiness because there is nobody to pick them up.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #3.1 Inclusiveness is freedom.