How to not be fearful but blissful

Updated December 4, 2022

No matter how beautiful something is defined, it confirms separation, thus making you suffer. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen

You are defined as someone separated from others by what you exclude from your perception of yourself. For example, if you exclude what you judge as bad, you appear better than the wrong ones. On the other hand, inclusion does not establish you as anything, thus setting you free from the belief in separation and the suffering it entails.

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You are defined by what you judge yourself not to be. In other words, you do not want peace in the world because you need the bad guys to contrast the image you have made of yourself as one of the good ones doing the right thing.

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Those defining themselves as vegetarians believe it is better not to eat meat. From this, we can derive that being someone definitive is not a fact but a belief based on excluding something specific to become better than others.

However, exclusion entails separation, which mindfulness will not solve because it is also based on eliminating something. On the other hand, if you do not exclude, thus include, there is no separation, thus nothing to define you as better than others, thus not feeling isolated.

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Be happy if the same thoughts pop up repeatedly because it is probably thoughts you have excluded that beg to be included.

To include them is to be them, and to be them is to be confused and not know what is going on, so you can enter a state of not-knowing and return from there to the awareness of being someone with the slate wiped clean.

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Meditation is not needed to stop thoughts when nobody has them.

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It requires much effort to be exclusive, whereas inclusiveness requires none because all you have to do is not be exclusive. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You do not include a feeling by understanding it but by being it. That is done by fully expressing it internally because it is within yourself you have disassociated yourself from it by accusing somebody else of having caused it. However, should you forget to do it internally and burst out in anger, do not be ashamed but include it.

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You must judge somebody as different from you to have compassion for them. Therefore, since compassion is an act of exclusion, it inflicts suffering.

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Sometimes the fastest way to include feelings is to breathe through them. But as this may entail pain, it does not seem the easiest way. That is, until the pain is included.

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You do not become happy by excluding what makes you sad but by including it because inclusiveness is completeness, thus happiness.

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You are defined as someone definitive by what you exclude. So if you do not exclude, you are the bliss of nothing.

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Angry feelings often appear in sentences like »You are this and that …«. But if you change it into »I am this and that …«, it is much easier to include your anger. That is not meant to say you should stop blaming others. On the contrary, blaming them is the fastest way of exposing what you have banned in yourself. Read more about that here.

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In a world where there seems to be more than one, you have nothing but the fear of losing everything because no matter how much more you appear to become and have, you are bound to lose it. In contrast, you have nothing to lose in the formlessness of oneness because it takes more than one to have something. Hence there is nothing to fear.

However, nobody is being or having something in a world where there seems to be more than one if you are indifferent to what you appear to be and have. Thus becoming and getting more in such a world can be enjoyed without the fear of losing it. You become indifferent to appearances when not exclusive, therefore inclusive, because that leaves nothing to define you.

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Exclusiveness is the foundation of appearing to be someone definitive in a world of duality, as it favours one side of a contrast over the other, whereas inclusiveness cancels out the apparent difference in contrasts. Consequently you do not appear to be someone definitive but nobody and so the foundation for the belief in separation is gone. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The foundation of your appearance as someone definitive in a world where there seems to be more than one is exclusiveness. First, one side of a contrast is judged better than the other. Second, the bad side is excluded by projecting it onto somebody, so you appear good at the expense of others. Fortunately, inclusiveness undoes this. It cancels out the apparent difference between contrasting elements. Thus, eventually, you do not appear to differ from others, which means the foundation for the belief in separation fades out. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Appearing to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, you cannot always be happy. A feeling must be contrasted by its opposite to be experienced as something. For example, you would not know happiness if not for sadness, and light requires darkness to be seen, peace needs war, positivity is coupled with negativity, and so on. Therefore, the more you include, the less there is to define your experiences as something. Eventually, there is nothing to experience, thus nothing to hide that which cannot be experienced, namely the formlessness of oneness.

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Including something upsetting will not transform it but stop it from upsetting you. You do not even know what was not bothering you anymore. So if you, for example, want to forget your ex, you include unedited memories of the relationship.

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The belief that it is possible to be and have more than that which is one is based on exclusion, so when exclusion is included, the belief is undone.

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Including everything does not mean you must include something you do not like, but that you include disliking it.

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When there is no need to be seen as someone definitive, it does not matter if others seem to induce feelings of sadness or happiness because there is nobody to pick them up.

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All you need to undo the belief in being someone definitive is to include your present experience altogether. Are you not aware of it, you include feeling foggy by being willing to be nothing but that. Since it leaves nothing to define being foggy, you are not that but empty, thus not what you believed to be.

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Willingness to include the moment unfiltered undoes the belief in being someone definitive. This willingness, however, nobody has, but by admitting that, you are including the moment as it is. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

A world where there seems to be more than one is experienced through contrasts. But fortunately, contrasts can also be used to undo the belief in such a world. For example, when beauty is entirely included by you being nothing but beautiful, there is not something to contrast what you are, thus nothing to define you as somebody. Therefore, since there is nobody to perceive the apparent difference between beauty and ugliness to make a difference, duality falls apart.

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Since the opposing sides of a contrast are defined by each other, you cannot have one without the other. Therefore, no contrast = no definition = no experience = no duality = non-duality.

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Exclusiveness generates the belief in scarcity, whereas inclusiveness does not generate something. Hence you are in the bliss of nothing.

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When you justify hatred with the world, it seems excluded from you. But also, love seems to have left you because it cannot be experienced internally without its contrast, hate. However, as these emotions only are excluded from your awareness, they remain in you, hidden behind a feeling of fear in the emptiness generated by your dissociation from hate and love. Emptiness is also the result of including hate because that leaves nothing to contrast it, wherefore it is undefinable. But since this emptiness is not based on the suppression of feelings but on their inclusion, it does not result in fear of something but the bliss of nothing.

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The less the opposing elements of a contrast appear to make a difference, the less you can assign them with meaning – and since bliss comes from the absence of something, the more bliss there is.

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Finding mistakes or claiming that you need time to process what has happened are common ways of holding back so that you do not lose yourself in the moment’s intensity, thus remaining as if you are someone in a world of something instead of the bliss of nothing.

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Without contrast, the cat would disappear into empty space. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Assuming one needs to process what is going on, most move forward as in a car with the brakes on. However, not processing your experiences, thus releasing the brakes, you go so fast that there is no time to define what and where you are. Therefore you are in the bliss of nothing. Be aware that this is a metaphor, so when you drive a car, you use the brake when needed.

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If you want to undo the belief in a world where there seems to be more than one, do not hold back feelings or slow down thoughts but follow their flow unedited. Take sex as an example, devoting yourself to it feels so intense that it obliterates itself because, in its ecstasy, there is no room for anything else, thus not something to contrast it, wherefore there is no experience of something specific. Consequently, there is no experiencer to believe there is more than one.

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A sure way to not exclude but include is not knowing what happens because that means there is nothing to exclude.

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Alexius’ Duality Hacks are not about undoing mistakes in a world where there seems to be more than one, but the belief that you are there.

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Something has been wholly included when you cannot remember what you included.

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You cannot fail when practising inclusiveness. For example, if you forget to include something, you include your forgetfulness. And if you think it is a sin to forget something, you include being a sinner.

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Nothing has to be changed or made better to make inclusiveness work. It is straightforward. You can never do it wrong because if you do, you include that.

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Of course, to include something is as illusionary as anything else that requires more than one. Yet, the illusion of inclusion is a way to use the belief in more than one to undo it. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Since the experience of a world where there seems to be more than one is based on exclusion, the obvious way to undo it is to be inclusive. However, this is not done by avoiding being exclusive because that is not inclusive.

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To fully include the feeling of the moment is in no way about going deeper, being more truthful or anything else. It is simply to include the feeling as it is.

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Thoughts can be compared to seeing a cloud passing by that looks like a dog for a moment. But there is no dog in the sky. It is a hallucination – and so is the meaning you assign to thoughts to make them confirm you are someone definitive.

However, the more meaning you assign to thoughts to highlight yourself as someone specific, the faster they run to escape your dominion. In other words, the more you set yourself up as someone definitive, the harder it is to assign thoughts with a meaning upholding your image.

But if you include the confusion and uncertainty that this causes or go with the extreme speed of thoughts trying to escape you, you enter a state of not-knowing.

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Anything devoid of what you define as meaningful leads to a state of not-knowing.

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Alexius is diagnosed with IBS, so he must exclude specific foods from his diet not to upset his stomach. Nothing, though, needs to be excluded from his body to enter a state of not-knowing, as long as he includes the experience of it as it is. Should he try to edit this in favour of a more pleasant experience, a state of not-knowing is fenced off. But not if he is willing to include the unpleasantness.

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A state of not-knowing is not perfect in the sense that you may not fall, for example, but nobody is bothered by it.

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Taking a step now, you put one foot forward into the future while the other foot remains in the past. In other words, there is no living in the now without the past and the future. That is why those excluding the past and the future to live by the idea of now have the frustration of separation. And those including everything as it feels have the bliss of wholeness.

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Although a state of not-knowing cannot last, the bliss of nothing is always there – just like the sun also shines when covered by clouds.

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If you lose yourself in love, there is nobody to love anybody. Hence there is nobody to believe in a world where there seems to be more than one. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Thinking you are in a joyful mood because of the sunset or your warm body being refreshed by the wind, you justify the feeling of joy and thereby dissociate yourself from it.

You probably choose to do that because too much joy would make you forget to remember to be someone. Hence you cannot uphold your present appearance or work on the ones you have planned for the future. In other words, you are more excited about the imagination of being something specific than that which cannot be imagined, namely the formlessness of oneness.

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Reading Alexius’ Enlightened Non-Teachings, you may conclude that being and having more should be avoided. If so, you have not gotten it is about: inclusion. In other words, no need to avoid being and having more. It is the natural way of a world where there appears to be more than one because it is founded on the wish for more. However, if not exclusive, thus inclusive, the more you become and have makes no difference. Therefore, since separation fades out, there are no gaps to obscure that which is One.

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Based on the idea that oneness is tranquillity, the advanced spiritual seeker tries to avoid peak experiences via meditation and tantra sex, for example. However, that which is One can be compared to an unlimited stream of peak experiences, changing at such a speed that there is no time to differentiate them from each other. That is why it is one perpetual present.

Therefore, as long as you believe to be somebody in a world where there seems to be more than one, this belief fends off oneness. But since time and space have been established via exclusion, inclusion undoes it.

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Inclusion can be compared to a black hole that sucks everything into it. In the end, there is not even someone to include something. Neither is there an end except for the belief of being someone. See The ins and outs of a black hole.

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Since life is that which is One, and it requires more than one to be seen, life is not visible. Therefore, the more you are unseen, the more you are alive. And since the world is in the eye of the beholder, you are unseen when you do not perceive the apparent differences of the world to make a difference.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #3.1 Inclusiveness sets you free from duality.