Inclusion vs exclusion

Updated June 18, 2023

You are defined as someone separated from others by what you exclude from your perception of yourself. For example, if you exclude what you judge as wrong by projecting it onto others, you appear better than them. In contrast, inclusion does not establish you as separated, thus freeing you from the suffering it entails.

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Those defining themselves as vegetarians believe it is better not to eat meat. From this, we can derive that being someone definitive is not a fact but a belief based on excluding something specific to become better than others.

However, exclusion entails separation, thus loneliness. Mindfulness does not solve that because it is also based on eliminating something. On the other hand, if you do not exclude but include, there is no separation. Therefore, loneliness is gone since there is nothing to define you as better than others.

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If you send love or healing to somebody, you assume you differ from them by having something special. Therefore, since it is an act of domination and separation, it inflicts suffering. The same applies to having compassion for somebody.

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Finding mistakes or claiming that you need time to process what has happened are common ways of holding back so that you do not lose yourself in the moment’s intensity, thus remaining as if you are someone in a world of something instead of the bliss of nothing.

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Assuming one needs to process what is happening, most move forward like in a car with the brakes on. On the other hand, not processing your experiences, thus releasing the brakes, you go so fast that there is no time to define what and where you are. Therefore you are in the bliss of nothing. Be aware that this is a metaphor, so when you drive a car, you use the brake when needed.

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When there is no need to be seen as someone definitive, it does not matter if others seem to induce sadness or happiness because nobody picks them up.

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Happiness does not come from excluding what makes you sad but by including it because inclusiveness is completeness, thus happiness.

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You do not include a feeling by understanding it but by being it. You do that by fully expressing it internally because it is within yourself you have disassociated yourself from it by accusing somebody else of having caused it. However, should you forget to do it internally and burst out in anger, do not be ashamed but include it.

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To fully include the moment’s feeling is not about going deeper or being more truthful. It is simply to include the feeling as it is.

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Sometimes the fastest way to include feelings is to breathe through them. But as this may entail pain, it does not seem the easiest way. That is, until the pain is included.

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Angry feelings often appear in sentences like »You are this and that …«. But if you change it into »I am this and that …«, it is much easier to include your anger. That is not meant to say you should stop blaming others. On the contrary, blaming them is the fastest way of exposing what you have banned in yourself. Read more about that here.

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Appearing to be someone in a world of duality, you cannot always be happy. A feeling must be contrasted by its opposite to be experienced. You would not know happiness if not for sadness. Light requires darkness to be seen. Peace needs war, and positivity is coupled with negativity. Therefore, the more you include, the less definable experiences you have. Eventually, there are no experiences to hide that which cannot be experienced, namely non-duality.

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All you need to undo the belief in being someone definitive is to include your present experience unedited. If you are unaware of it, you include feeling foggy by being willing to be nothing but that. Since it leaves nothing to define foggy, you are not that but empty, thus not what you believed to be.

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When you justify hatred with the world, hate seems excluded from you. However, that includes love because it cannot be experienced as yours without its contrast, hate. But as these emotions only are excluded from your awareness, they remain in you, hidden behind a feeling of fear in the emptiness generated by your dissociation from hate and love. Emptiness also results from including hate because it leaves nothing to contrast it, wherefore it is undefinable. But since this emptiness is not based on the suppression of feelings but on their inclusion, it does not result in fear of something but the bliss of nothing.

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If you want to undo the belief in a world where there seems to be more than one, do not hold back feelings or slow down thoughts but follow their flow unedited. Take sex as an example. Devoting yourself to it feels so intense that it obliterates itself because, in its ecstasy, there is no room for anything else, thus not something to contrast it, wherefore, for a moment, no experience of more than one.

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Assuming you are joyful because of the sunset or your warm body being refreshed by the wind, you justify the feeling of joy to dissociate yourself from it. You probably do that because too much joy makes you forget to uphold your appearance, thus being nobody.

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Including something upsetting will not transform it but stop it from disturbing you. Hence you do not know what does not bother you anymore. Therefore, if you want to forget your ex, you include unedited memories of the relationship.

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Including everything does not mean you must include something you do not like, but that you include disliking it.

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A world of duality is experienced through contrasts. But fortunately, contrasts can also be used to undo the belief in such a world. For example, when beauty is entirely included by you being nothing but beautiful, there is not something to contrast what you are; thus, nothing defines you as somebody. Therefore, duality falls apart since there is nobody to perceive the apparent difference between beauty and ugliness to make a difference.

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Since the opposing sides of a contrast are defined by each other, you cannot have one without the other. Therefore, no contrast = no definition = no experience = no duality = non-duality.

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You are defined as someone definitive by what you exclude. So if you do not exclude, you are the bliss of nothing.

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Exclusiveness generates the belief in scarcity, whereas inclusiveness does not generate something. Hence you are in the bliss of nothing.

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The belief that it is possible to be and have more than that which is One is based on exclusion, so when not excluding, thus including, the belief is undone.

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Alexius’ Duality Hacks are not about undoing mistakes in a world where there seems to be more than one, but the belief that there is more than one.

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A sure way to not exclude but include is not knowing what happens because that means there is nothing to exclude.

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You cannot fail when practising inclusiveness. For example, if you forget to include something, you include your forgetfulness. And if you think it is a sin to forget something, you include being a sinner.

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Nothing has to be changed or made better to make inclusiveness work. It is straightforward. You can never do it wrong because if you do, you include that.

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Something has been wholly included when you cannot remember what you included.

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Based on the idea that oneness is tranquillity, the advanced spiritual seeker tries to avoid peak experiences via meditation and tantra sex, for example. However, that which is One can be compared to an unlimited stream of peak experiences, changing at such a speed that there is no time to differentiate them from each other. That is why it is one perpetual present.

Therefore, as long as you believe to be somebody in a world where there seems to be more than one, this belief fends off oneness. But since time and space have been established via exclusion, inclusion undoes it.

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Reading Alexius’ Enlightened Non-Teachings, you may conclude that being and having more should be avoided. If so, you have not gotten it is about inclusion. In other words, no need to avoid being and having more. It is the natural way of a world where there appears to be more than one because it is founded on the wish for more. However, if not exclusive, thus inclusive, the more you become and have makes no difference. Therefore, since separation fades out, there is nothing specific to obscure the formlessness of oneness.

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Inclusion can be compared to a black hole that sucks everything into it. In the end, there is not even someone to include something. Neither is there an end except for the belief of being someone. See The ins and outs of a black hole.

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Since life is that which is One, and it requires more than one to be seen, life is invisible. Therefore, the more you are unseen, the more you are alive. And since the world is in the eye of the beholder, you are unseen when you do not perceive the apparent differences of the world to make a difference.

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Since the experience of a world where there seems to be more than one is based on exclusion, the obvious way to undo it is to be inclusive. However, it is not done by avoiding being exclusive because that is not inclusive.

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Be happy if the same thoughts pop up repeatedly because it is probably thoughts you have excluded begging to be included.

To include them is to be them, and to be them is to be confused and not know what is going on, so you can enter a state of not-knowing and return from there to the awareness of being someone with the slate wiped clean.

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A state of not-knowing is not perfect in the sense that you never fall, for example, but nobody is bothered by it.

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Thoughts can be compared to seeing a cloud passing by that looks like a dog for a moment. But there is no dog in the sky. It is imagination – and so is the meaning you assign to thoughts to make them confirm you are someone definitive.

However, the more meaning you assign to thoughts to highlight yourself as someone specific, the faster they run to escape your dominion. But if you include the confusion and uncertainty this causes, you enter a state of not-knowing. You can also go with the extreme speed of thoughts trying to escape you to enter a state of not-knowing via the empty breath. See hack #9 The empty breath and the bliss of nothing.

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Anything devoid of what you define as meaningful leads to a state of not-knowing. However, this state is not a sensation like falling in love but the bliss of nothing.

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Alexius is diagnosed with IBS, so he must exclude specific foods from his diet not to upset his stomach. Nothing, though, needs to be excluded from his body to enter a state of not-knowing, as long as he includes the experience of it as it is. Should he try to edit this in favour of a more pleasant experience, a state of not-knowing is fenced off. But not if he is willing to include the unpleasantness.

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Although a state of not-knowing cannot last if you want to remain in the consciousness of being someone (read more about thet here), the bliss of nothing is always there – just like the sun also shines when covered by clouds.

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We exclude everything that does not fit the specific personality we want to establish as ours by projecting it onto somebody perceived to differ from ourselves. Then others, as the bad ones, become a contrasting background for us as the good ones. Therefore, since our perception of others shapes our explicit personality, we can see in them what we need to include to become flexible, thus not being imprisoned by our invented personality. Read more in The YOU finger and the three ME fingers.

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Feeling at peace in a world where there seems to be more than one depends on excluding disturbances. But since the exclusion of something enhances separation, you get lonely. Still, you are willing to pay this price because exclusiveness makes you feel unique. Hence you have no peace until you are not exclusive but inclusive, thus not alone and without the need to be unique.

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Taking a step now, you put one foot forward into the future while the other remains in the past. Hence now includes the past and the future. That is why those excluding the past and the future to live by the idea of now feel the frustration of separation. And those including everything as it feels have the bliss of togetherness.

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NOTE: This article is part of hack #4 Inclusiveness frees you from duality.