‘The perfect moment’ does not require learning – only honesty

Updated March 28, 2022

Guinevere freaking out. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If there is somebody you dislike, you do not need to change that because if you do not disassociate yourself from your disgust by justifying it with the world, the moment is perfect as it is. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The two cats – Wincent and Guinevere – with who Alexius shares a home have a deep territorial instinct, so when a new cat curiously showed up, they got upset – especially Guinevere. She freaked out and furiously ran away. When Guinevere later returned, she did not notice that the stranger was on the sofa, so she laid down on the floor without a worry – until she suddenly looked up and saw him.

Once again, she furiously left us, and even though the visitor had left when she returned, she was still agitated. To prove that it was justified, she searched for spots of leftover scent from the visitor. And every time she found one, she screamed to show Wincent and Alexius how much the stranger had hurt her.

The anger Guinevere held onto was supposed to make the unfamiliar cat feel bad and thus leave her world. But as the new cat mostly had spent his time sleeping on the sofa, he had no idea that he had made her angry and therefore should suffer. Actually, he happily returned the next day to take another nap on the sofa. However, there was another one who felt punished by her anger, namely herself. The fury was eating her up from inside.

The above is not meant to be about anger, but that to justify enhances the feeling of separation. In the case of Guinevere, her anger justified by a stranger made her believe she was superior to him, regardless that her justification on a psychological level turned her into a victim of him. However, that is not important. The crucial thing is that there appear to be more than one. But if the experience of anger is not turned into a story of why and wherefore, the experience quickly dissolves because without a cause, there is no effect. Read more about that here. So if Guinevere had not justified her experience of distress with the visiting cat, it would simply have passed by.

A perfect moment can be compared to a zone where there is no need to to disguise, transcend or transform anything.

Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

To include a feeling as it is, you do not justify it. In this way, somebody, who appears to make you angry, becomes somebody who helps you become nobody being in a perfect moment. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

As a kitten, Guinevere had been left behind twice by people before she found Alexius when she was around five months old. Hence she freaks out every time something in the present triggers old feelings of betrayal. Alexius grew up in a home that was like a war zone to him (read more about that here), so he tends to justify his insecurity with the need to protect himself from a devastating power seen outside of him.

However, feelings from the past do not have to be an ongoing problem. Whenever they pop up, you accept them as yours instead of blaming others for having caused them. Consequently, they do not prevent you from having a perfect moment. In other words, in a perfect moment, anger is not a disturbing feeling you try to push away into the dark. Instead, it is taken into the light. This is not done by going back into the past to fix it, neither by denying it, but by including the pain and anger of the past as it is experienced in the present moment.

The inclusion of a feeling does not mean, that you will never experience this vibration again. But you will never experience it as a specific feeling, that has the ability to upset you. Read more about that in hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.

Inclusion frees you from your story of a world made of past memories. Therefore, since those memories are used to keep the belief in separation alive, the concepts used to condition you into assuming that you are an autonomous creature quietly falls apart. Of course, this does not mean that you get rid of your conditioning. But it means you do not consider them real – just like when you play along with the rules of a game, you know they are not real.

Being inclusive is a perfect moment. Should you forget that, it remains perfect if forgetfulness is included. Therefore, no need to worry about getting it right. All that is needed for a moment to be perfect is to not be exclusive but inclusive. And you are automatically inclusive when not excluding something.

If a feeling from the past seems challenging to include because it is so diffuse, it can be included by merely including how your body feels in this moment. Most unwanted thoughts and feelings are stored in the stomach, for example, until the pressure gets too high on the body, so you try to alleviate it by projecting it onto others – often those closest to you.

Alexius’ Duality Hacks are not a new philosophy or religion with a new vocabulary and rules that you must learn and strictly follow. If you, for example, do not want to include your cats, feel free to exclude them. It does not matter, as long as you include your unwillingness to include. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

In other words, since your body and those closest to you most likely are the most significant symbols of exclusion, you go straight into a perfect moment by including them. This is not the same as loving them, as you cannot love something unless it is perceived as being separated from you. From this follows, to love somebody is to exclude them. Yet this exclusion – just like any other, can be undone by including it.

Do not worry if you are not willing to include everything. Unwillingness does not matter if not justified by others but included as yours. No need to worry either if you justify unwillingness. The same that applies to unwillingness, applies to justification. It makes no difference when included as yours. See also the end of the article How to not be fearful but blissful.

The idea of living in the now is, as most so-called spiritual ideas, based on exclusion. Hence the belief in separation is enhanced. In this case, the past and future are excluded to highlight a separate point in between them called now. On the other hand, a perfect moment is not based on separation. It includes any memory of the past and expectations of the future. It has no rules but to be inclusive, which you automatically are when not exclusive.

A perfect moment can last from a split second to several years. It may seem as if you forever are in a perfect moment while dreaming about nothing. It lasts as long as you have no concern for a world where there seems to be more than one. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

It is not complicated to include everything perceived in the present moment. For example, if the Chinese wallpaper in this image is not noticed by the guy having dinner in a Chinese restaurant, it is not part of the moment.

Maybe he did not even look at the food in the moment of this photo but had a childhood memory popping up of being photographed. If so, including everything as it is experienced at the moment is to include the memory of his childhood and whatever thoughts or feeling arises from that.

This is what makes the moment perfect for him. Not Alexius shooting the photo, the Chinese food or the beautiful people passing by, because that is not what he notices at the moment. He is dreaming of the past, and when he embraces that, the moment is perfect.

NOTE: This article is part of hack #3.1 Every moment is the perfect moment.