The YOU finger and the three ME fingers

Updated February 5, 2023

Please judge me. Point your finger at me, so you can forgive yourself for what you have judged yourself to be by following your three fingers back to yourself.

The three ME fingers point back to you when the YOU finger points to somebody as wrong. So therefore, following the three ME fingers, you see what your judgment covers in you. For example, maybe you have always done the right thing but sometimes secretly wanted not to give a shit. But since you consider that incorrect and want to be correct, you disassociate yourself from this desire by condemning somebody else for being wrong. On the other hand, if you follow the three ME fingers back to yourself, you get in touch with the suppressed rebel in you, thus feeling relieved because now you do not have to hide your wildness. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

When you point the YOU finger towards somebody, the three ME fingers point back to yourself to show what you blame others for, you deny in yourself.

For example, you point the YOU finger at your boss and either silently or loudly state he is a ruthless dictator. But simultaneously, the three ME fingers point back to you, exposing what you want to hide by accusing your boss of dictatorship. It could be that you want to disguise your urge to dictate. But in most cases, it is the feeling an authority figures trigger in you, for example, worthlessness, you avoid facing by accusing the boss of putting you down.

To keep up your specific appearance, you always look for others opinions. Yet you do not know, what they think. It is something you assume. In other words, it is nobody but yourself you are up against.

If you always control yourself to do the right thing, you may feel dominated by society. But you suppress yourself. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Perhaps feeling inferior started in your childhood because you always had to do what your parent expected to get their love. Therefore, since pleasing others by doing the right thing has become a pattern, you adjust to the boss’s expectation to be appreciated. However, you hide you have manipulated the boss to like you, thus suppressing feeling inferior, by claiming the boss uses you.

That is not to say that you must visit unresolved issues from the past to free yourself from the pattern once initiated. It repeats itself constantly. In this case, with anybody considered an authority figure. Hence you can go on blaming others for dominating you to hide feeling inadequate until you follow the three ME fingers back yourself and face feeling unloved as you are. Be aware this is not about analysing, embracing or speaking out loud. On the contrary, that is a mental activity, so it tends to distance yourself further from feeling what you hide. Instead, be what you feel when you perceive others to dominate.

If you want to see, what prevents you from enjoying yourself, keep blaming somebody else for your state of mind. Hence they show you what you think is wrong in yourself, thus keeping you from feeling loved.

When you are nothing but that, there is not something to define your being. Therefore, since nobody feels inferior, there is no need to perceive others as superior. In other words, it takes less than a minute to set yourself free from past conditioning, thus freeing others from your judgment. But it might have taken years via meditation or therapy.

Feel free to point the judging YOU finger at Alexius and follow the three ME fingers pointing back to yourself to feel what your accusation triggers in you. Feeling that, and nothing else, there is not something to define the problem. Thus you have set yourself and Alexius free. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You can start immediately by condemning Alexius for typos and whatnåt to see what his perceived mistakes trigger in you. No worries if it is not exposed. By pointing the YOU finger at him and following the three ME fingers, you include what you have excluded from your self-awareness. It is like using an eraser because the included is not stored in the memory as something specific anymore. Hence you will not know what you have included. Read more about that in hack #3.1 Inclusiveness sets you free from duality. However, you probably notice that you are not so tense. And the next time you encounter a scenario that used to upset you, you laugh and wonder why you have ever insisted something was wrong.

When you do not continually project onto others what you are ashamed of in yourself, you are free to be together unconditionally.

The point of reference in the above was feeling upset. But everything said about that also applies to feeling good. For example, by pointing the YOU finger at someone, saying: »You make me happy,« you can see what that triggers in yourself. Thus you can be together with others without expecting them to make you happy.


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