You cannot change anything but your perception of it

Updated February 4, 2023

If you do not like how you see something, you do not love yourself because your perception is based on what you think you are. Consequently, choosing a perception that makes you feel good is in your best interest. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You cannot change parts of a movie into something you prefer. But you can change your perception of them, whether they seem to happen in the present or the past.

The same applies to the world. Any event, including past ones, can make you happy if you choose the appropriate perception. So if you are not satisfied, you have chosen to perceive something in an upsetting way.


When not groovy, you need to change your perception of whatever you believe in dragging you down. It is never too late to do that.


How you perceive the response from others depends on how you see them. That is why you perceive their response as upsetting when you see them as wrong. Therefore, if you do not want to feel disturbed by them, you correct your perception of their response to see them as right.

And since you only see what you have in yourself, and that is what you believe in being, changing the perception of what you receive, you recognise you are right. See also The YOU finger and the three ME fingers.


When you look at the world with love, you are loved, because what you see is what you get.

If you look at the world with love, you are loved because you see what you give. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

What you give comes back to you – not in another lifetime, but at the exact moment you give it. That is not to be understood physically, as if you give money, you get money. It is the intention behind giving money that returns to you immediately. The sense of giving and receiving is happening in yourself, so if you want to experience being loved, love must be why you give money. In other words, when you know that you give what you want to get, your perception will be that you get what you want.


What you see is what you have because you cannot be aware of something you do not have. Therefore, if you have love, everybody is perceived as loving. Hence you feel loved by them, no matter how they appear to respond to you.

But that does not mean you must love everything others do or say. For example, Alexius does not like his cats bringing home half-dead lizards and mice. But their behaviour does not change his love for them.


When blaming your parents, society or something else for having conditioned you, you become a victim of others. Therefore, since everything you do is justified by the world, you can behave in ways that otherwise would be unacceptable.

But you are not a victim of your parents, the deep state, digital tracing, climate changes, capitalism, 5G or whatnot. On the contrary, it is you who have chosen to be conditioned by the world, probably to appear innocent and live a comfortable life as a consumer who only has to ratify the decisions of others.


If you want the world to respond in a way that you define as lovingly, your self-hatred is exposed if you do not get the response you expect. However, instead of acknowledging that the world is in the eye of the beholder, most people blame it for rejecting them.


The sun can only ´make´ the flowers blossom, because they are built to do so. They have no choice. But you have a choice, and it is in your own best interest to choose, what makes you feel good.

The sun can only cause the flowers to blossom because they are made to do that. They have no choice. The same applies to you, except that you have a choice regarding how to perceive the flowers. Of course, choosing a perception of the world that makes you feel good is in your best interest. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When you feel complete, a present is perceived as perfect. But if you feel uncertain about yourself, you look for faults and missing parts. In other words, your reaction reveals nothing about the present but about yourself.

Acknowledging the world is in the eye of the beholder, you know that what you give is what you have. And since what you receive is perceived per that, you cannot receive love if you have suppressed your hated because love is defined by it. Therefore, be thankful when others seem to upset you. They help you to see your hatred, so your love can be defined by it, thus giving and receiving genuine love. Read more about the twofoldness of love and hate here.


That the world is in the eye of the beholder does not mean you are in charge of what happens in the world but how you perceive it.


Whether you are aware of it, you always give what you want. So if you receive hatred, that is what you want. It could be because you want to acknowledge the hate in you because you cannot feel your love without it. Read more about that in hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.


Do not hold back your judgments. They reveal what you need to see in yourself to feel complete in a world of duality. For example, if you perceive the shit you see as yours, it can define your purity. See Notes on the duality flow.


If I go for a walk in the mountain to be filled up, I will enhance the feeling of loss. But if I go there, because I have everything, I will see everything – and that is joyful.

If Alexius walks in the mountains to fill himself with more experiences, he enhances the feeling of loss. Thus nothing on his walk fulfils him. But if he walks feeling satisfied, everything is fine as it is. One way to always feel pleased is to pretend it. It may seem like cheating, but everything in a world of appearances is fictitious, so why not make your story pleasant? Read more about that in hack #1.3 Pretending to be someone definitive is liberation. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

This article states that if you feel joy, whatever you choose to get results in a joyful experience. Therefore, if you do not sparkle with joy when reading the article, your motivation for reading it is not to feel joy and use the article to ratify that the world is miserable – thereby confirming your belief that it is not you but the world causing your misery.

Unfortunately, you cannot choose to feel pleasure. It is an automatic outcome of not trying to control the world but being in sync with the brain’s script. Fortunately, you can choose not to go against that.

For example, if the brain produces images of ice cream, do not fight your desire to have one but go with it. Doing so may not lead to ice cream but, indeed, to something joyful. Because all the brain cares about is your happiness. Read about that in hack #4.2 The brain’s script and how to perceive it to feel happy.