You cannot change your experience of the world, but you can change the perception of it

Updated July 5, 2022

If you do not like how you perceive your experience, you do not love yourself because your perception is based on what you think you are. Consequently, choosing a perception that makes you feel good is in your best interest. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You cannot change parts of a movie into something you like better. But you can change your perception of them, whether they seem to happen in the present or the past.

The same applies to how you perceive the world where you appear to be. Any moment, including past ones, can make you happy if you choose the appropriate perception. In other words, if you are not satisfied, you have chosen to perceive the world in an upsetting way.

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How you perceive the response you get from others always correlates to how you see them. Therefore, if you perceive their response as upsetting, you see them as disturbing. So if you do not want to be disturbed by them, you correct your perception of their response into something that makes you feel comforted, thus seeing them as good.

And since you only see what you have in yourself, and that is what you believe in being, changing the perception of what you receive, you recognise the unknown beauty of yourself. See also The YOU finger and the three ME fingers.


Whether you are aware of it, you always give what you want. So if you perceive to receive hatred, that is what you want. Maybe to acknowledge it in yourself because without acknowledging hate, you cannot feel your love. Read more about that in hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.


When you look at the world with love, you are loved, because what you see is what you get.

If you look at the world with love, you are loved because you see what you get. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

What you give comes back to you – not in another lifetime, but at the exact moment, you give it. This is not to be understood physically, as if you give money, you get money. It is the intention behind giving money that returns to you immediately. The sense of giving and receiving is happening in yourself, so if you want to experience being loved, love must be the content of what you offer. In other words, if you give what you want, your perception of what you receive will be that you get what you want.


If you do not get the response you expect from the world, your self-hatred is exposed. But instead of acknowledging that the world is in the eye of the beholder, most blame it for not loving them.


When you want the world to respond in a way that you define as lovingly, your self-hatred is exposed if you do not get the response you expect. But instead of acknowledging that the world is in the eye of the beholder, most blame it for rejecting you.


Though many agree that the world is in the eye of the beholder, they still blame others for their state of mind instead of acknowledging what they see is what they have because you cannot experience something you do not have. Therefore, if you have love, everybody is perceived as lovingly. No matter how they appear to respond to that, you feel loved by them.

Giving and receiving love does not mean you must love everything others do or say. For example, in the case of Alexius, he does not like that his cats bring home half-dead lizards and mice. But their behaviour does not change his love for them.

In short, you choose how to perceive the world. So if you look at it with love, this is what you get because what you see is what you have.


The sun can only ´make´ the flowers blossom, because they are built to do so. They have no choice. But you have a choice, and it is in your own best interest to choose, what makes you feel good.

The sun can only cause the flowers to blossom because they are made to do that. They have no choice. The same applies to you, except that you have a choice regarding how to perceive the flowers or anything else in the world. And it is in your own best interest to choose a perception of the world that makes you feel good. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Unpleasant feelings are often justified by the world, thus appearing as caused by something outside the sufferer. But this does not hold because the world is in the eye of the beholder. Thus you cannot recognise something you do not have. Therefore, if you perceive somebody to disturb you, you already have this restlessness in you – like you have the pigments that receive the sun’s rays to change your colour.

If there is love in you, you perceive your new colour as beautiful. But if you feel uncertain about yourself, you probably perceive faults and missing parts in the new colour. However, this perception reveals nothing about the sun but everything about how you see yourself. The less you want to face that, the more you blame the sun for making you insecure, although it only highlights what already is in you.

Acknowledging the world is in the eye of the beholder, you know that what you give is what you have. And since what you receive is perceived per that, you cannot receive love if you have suppressed your hated because love is defined by that. Therefore, be thankful when others seem to upset you. They help you to see your hatred, so your love can be defined by it, thus giving and receiving genuine love. Read more about the twofoldness of love and hate here.


That the world is in the eye of the beholder does not mean you are in charge of what happens in the world but of how you perceive it. So if you perceive the shit you see as yours, it can define your purity. In other words, do not hold back your judgments. They reveal what you need to see in yourself to feel complete in a world of duality. See Notes on the duality flow.


When not groovy, you need to change your perception of whatever you believe in dragging you down. And it is never too late to do that.